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loui50

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So my T is on vacation this week and I'm absolutely dreading 2 weeks between appointments. I'm anxious about going but I'm more anxious about NOT going. We talk about really hard stuff, but I always feel better when I leave. Does anyone else get anxious just knowing that the support will not be there if you need it? I can email her any time I like but she didn't say if she would be reading emails or not. I mean, she deserves a break too, but it just makes me so anxious.
 
No but the idea of experiencing this gives me anxiety. He assured me has no vacation plans any time soon but if he does ever, he will give 2 weeks notice. He told me he has a back up therapist I could talk to in a crisis but I don't want that, I'd just hold in all in or email him, luckily he encourages emails and always replies

I am struggling with going back to weekly after 2 weeks of 2x a week, I have no idea how I'll eventually skip a week, I hate the hold this takes on us sometimes :(
 
My T is on vacation this week...actually, I know exactly where he's going, why, and with whom, and jokingly threatened to stow away in someone's luggage just so I could go to the same conference and watch! Last session we talked about how much I would miss him, probably cry at some point during the week, etc. but I had an extra session last week to make up for the missing one next week. I know I could text him if I really needed to, but this time away for him is something that would be sacred to me, so I won't do that. I know I'll be fine, but I still miss him already. The post-session hug last week was especially heartfelt for both of us, so that's something that will hold me this week while he's away. And I always have my friends and the forums to help me feel not so alone.

This is the third time he's gone away for a week, but he's always given me plenty of advance warning, and an opportunity to make up the session. I'm used to the idea of him needing a break (having dealt with helper-profession burnout myself, I encourage him taking vacations!), but I still have to deal with the discomfort of not seeing a very important person in my life, and the disruption of my routines. Thankfully, after all this practice, I'm good at that now. Still sucks, but I deal. I know he's doing what's best for him, and he's doing it because on a plane somewhere in his soul, he wants to be at his best for his clients, including me. This makes me thankful that he cares enough about me to take a vacation.
 
My T is on vacation this week...actually, I know exactly where he's going, why, and with whom, and jokingl...
Hug?!!
Wow, did you initiate it? I sometimes wish I could hug me T... but I am too scared to ask, I kinda felt it was probably unethical with opposite genders.

Maybe someday I'll get the courage to do it.

I like your outlook on the whole vacation thing too
 
@loui50 My T is on vacation for three weeks beginning this coming Tuesday! And yes, there is some anxiety. This the first time and our relationship is strong enough that I am happy for her, we *all need a break, and yet...

Even though I won't do it, it's helpful to have been told that I can always email her. Hang in there, you are not alone!!
 
My T is going to be absent for 11 weeks, actually the whole summer. It was the same last year.
It's just what she is doing.
I have been falling apart for a month already trying hard to prepare myself for that period as I know how terrible I was feeling last year.
I know very good how it feels when we lose almost only support we get in a week.
My T let me down last year as she didn't support me in a way she promised she would over summer, this year she asks for me to believe her again, miraculously I am trying to believe she is going to help me better this one.
I need to wait and see.

I sympathize with you a lot, despite I have to endure many.more weeks I admit I would feel same like you even if it were only two weeks.

I hope the forum could be of some help for all of us who are without therapy over summer.
 
I've had two huggy T's, both most recently. I've come to the conclusion that I require a huggy T to help deal with several of my issues. It's now something I would ask about in the preliminary appointment.

Yeah, I don't think I could handle more than 2 weeks without my T. I'd be looking for a replacement after more than that! How do you do it?
 
I have hugged my t twice. She did not seem comfortable with it at all. I initiated and it was weird....


thats why if he was ok with it, i would wait until i was feeling ready... 100%. i dont wanna regret it, i already am uncomfortable with hugs so that would not help my experience. sorry it didnt go as well as you hoped
 
My T is going to be absent for 11 weeks, actually the whole summer.

Wow!! This is excessive. I am sorry to hear she let you down last year and hope the same does not happen in the coming months!!

Yeah, I don't think I could handle more than 2 weeks without my T.

Well, actually, I think you could :) . I think, maybe, we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for!!!

AND we can support one another!!! Yes?
 
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