Pissed for no reason

[Bill Dickerson]

I am a Lead for Nextdoor in our community. An elderly widow woman was posting thoughts for the day with a religious lilt. Many people enjoy them.

She suddenly started having them removed by the Lead in her neighborhood. When I looked it up he removed it because it had a religious tone. I was and am furious. She would put them up and he would take them down. Never been a problem before.

I talked about in a Lead forum and I notified the Nextdoor support about the issue. I was completely surprised when no one could see the bigotry. I was amazed.

I digress I have had an adrenaline rush and it only seems to get worse. In the pit of my stomach and I just seem to get more agitated about the stupid responses I am getting. You would think somebody attacked me. I can't seem to calm down.

It's not the first time something on Nextdoor has upset me. I seem to be completely out of step with everyone when I get agitated. I worry that my perception is distorted.

Anybody else get like that.

The urge to answer these ignorant people is almost overwhelming. Sometimes they are so ignorant they can't see that their very responses are bigoted. Drives me nuts.

 

[Neverthesame]

I find situations like this very frustrating.
It's difficult to watch the things that are important to us be forcibly removed, for fear of offending someone else.

Being told something that stands for positivity, peace, community, is now bad and should be reviled and shunned. Because someone else doesn't like it.
As apparently personal f*cking willpower is too much to ask. God forbid, they just don't read the f*cking thing? noooo!
That would be silly, now wouldn't it?

How dare a senior citizen take time out of her day, to put forth a little effort to brighten other people's day?
Oh boy, what a menace she is. Quick, call the ATF. There's a little old lady running amok!

The willfully ignorant oxymoronic bigotry is the icing on the cake.
"But someone might be offended by this. It needs to be removed before anyone is offended. It's super important nobody is offended."

"Well. I'm offended it was removed."

"Yeah, but you don't count."

I don't know if I'm equally out of step about this kind of thing. If so? Good.
If wanting people to be treated fairly is out of step? So be it.
Just because everyone else wants to hop around on one foot, doesn't mean it's the best way to get around.

Can she put up her thoughts of the day in your Nextdoor?

 

[Bill Dickerson]

No it has to go through her Neighborhood and that where one of the bigots is Lead so he deletes them. It scares me that some of these folks can't identify bigotry. I tried to make it simple by taking the same statement about religion and inserting the word Colored folks. Why is one wrong but the other isn't.

Of course a couple of folks got irritated I used the word colored. They get offend by a word used in an intellectual discussion to explain bigotry. So many snowflakes so little time.

It's very hard not to respond to some of their ignorance. I take comfort in that the folks who wrote the bigoted comments that not all could see are aware I know they are bigots. I suppose they will go into hiding. I won't be silent because of their bigotry.

I think it bothers me because the elderly lady reminds me of my Mom. Sweet and harmless only wanting whats best for folks.

 

[scout86]

I think it bothers me because the elderly lady reminds me of my Mom.

You're probably on to something there.

It IS frustrating that people who think they're being "politically correct" often can't see that they are also being hypocrites.

 

[ladee]

You are doing the right thing by not responding.... we all know you can not plant new ideas into a closed mind.... so that would be wasting time and energy..... is there any way you can get in touch with this lady privately? And lovingly tell her you are a supporter of what she was trying to do?
And I promise you this... being an old lady myself... with very strong Faith and my own solid beliefs that have worked miracles in my life... she is not as offended as you are.... she understands on a deeper level where it's coming from.... and her faith, and her beliefs are as strong as they have ever been... she is still the same person... it's just a matter of the blinders being taken off about his group.... you have to decide if you still want to be a part of it... I , personally, would drop out like a hot rock..... I don't' want that kind of thinking in my world....

You can never change a persons belief with words.... it's by actions.... and have you ever confronted a bigot and got a ' hey, now that you put it that way, I really am, I need to change that"....uh, that's never going to happen.....so support your lady friend with love and compassion, that is what she will respond to.... not the other.... like I said, she understands , doesn't mean she's ok with it... but she understands....

Find another way to say what you need to say, but not with anger... righteous indignation is rarely paid attention to in our ugly world today.... and the people that need to see what you write, will see it and benefit from it... possibly start a blog.... with love......

Hope you settle down soon about the conditions you have no personal power to change..... doesn't mean you can't find a way to speak, just not with these people....

 

[Friday]

Does this community have rules against religious, political, sexual, etc. postings?

IE was the Lead following the rules granny was giving the middle finger to, or was the Lead overstepping their authority?

 

[Bill Dickerson]

I've been in touch with the lady and she has been distraught because she feels G-d wants her to do this. I've offered to create a Yahoo group so that she could ask the folks on Nextdoor that want could join and they could talk about whatever they wish.

The Lead was out of line. You have a certain amount of discretion. You could remove her posts saying it was over posting but he blatantly said religion had no place here on this site. Of course he's changed the reason now that it has become apparent he was being a bigot. There are no rules against religious posts in fact they have rules against discrimination.

I'm sure my irritation has come across in my posts but I've tried to make it understood through debate and logic. The returning posts bigotry and overwhelming ignorance only adds to my anger. I try to keep my anger out of the debate but that doesn't make not grow. I've started ignoring the whole thing otherwise I get angry. I feel I have to respond and it leads to a vicious cycle.

I do get some enjoyment out of the site and it's very good for the neighborhood from a safety standpoint.

 

[ladee]

If God wants her words to be out there, y'all will find a way... it will be seen to.

 

[The Albatross]

@Bill Dickerson - "I've offered to create a Yahoo group so that she could ask the folks on Nextdoor that want could join and they could talk about whatever they wish."

Very sensible and a good alternative Bill... good of you to perhaps take that on and do that for her.