Relationship Should You Always Initiate Communication With Him? (ptsd)

[CC101089]

is it necessary to initiate the communication with him or send random messages just to assure him that you are still there? (W/o expecting any reply at all) Or simply be silent when he is silent too?

 

[Friday]

Everyone is different.

My rule of thumb is to ask what they themselves prefer.

 

[alice in wonderalnd]

Over the past 11 months of being separated, i would send little texts, saying how im here if you need or anything just to let him understand i was willing to give him time...all it did he told me was push him further away. I could kick myself now but finally learned to di as they ask and give them space and if the relationship is important, believe me, they will contact you. .or in my case, i am still hoping. . Best of luck

 

[Buttercup]

As I have seen here so often, everyone is different. In my situation, when i send anything remotely heavy - say, I am here if you need me can actually be heavy - then that is a no go.

I have learned to send very light stuff now and then. Pics or jokes or funny memes. And not a lot of those. He will usually respond to that, but even then i don't see that as an entry to start a dialogue until he starts one.

I feel I have my own needs and if i need some kind of connection like what I described, I will do it. If he doesn't like it, he can not respond if he doesn't want to.

 

[alice in wonderalnd]

As I have seen here so often, everyone is different. In my situation, when i send anything remotely h...

Great advice. ..keep it light...they need a friend