A little background. My mother died when I was 29, a couple weeks after my birthday. She took her own life after a lifelong battle with bipolar disorder. It was really rough. My father refused to acknowledge my mother's mental health issues, and she really never got proper care. When she was quickly spiraling out of control, she drove her car into two trees, and while she was in the hospital, I tried to have her admitted to a mental health facility. My father blocked it, and my mom was gone within less than a year.
My father didn't even wait a month to start dating his high school sweetheart, and was engaged to her before grass even grew on my mother's grave. He never talked to me about it, and I was the last person to know, found out on Facebook of all places. My father moved in with her, and gave my parent's house to my little sister who has 3 kids and can't afford anything, so he still pays the mortgage and most of the bills. My sister took over the house and all my childhood stuff was thrown out, along with a lot of my mother's things. The valuable stuff that was hers, my father gave them to my now stepmother. This included a lot of things that were important to me. The only thing I have of my mother's is 1 ring and a picture of me and her from when I was little. She collected angels and had a large collection of them, which I also collect them and would've loved to have them. My father gave them to my stepmother and they are sitting on shelves throughout her house.
My father and I don't get along. He's very sexist, racist, homophobic, etc, etc and hates that both my husband and I are democratic human rights advocates. My sister and her husband share his values. My husband is an attorney who is constantly fighting for people, and I also do a lot to stand up for equality such as protest and speak out. My father is also very selfish, and rarely thinks about other people. I'm also pregnant with my second child after years of unexplained infertility, which my father stopped talking to me completely and blocked me on social media when he found out. He claims that my sister just had 2 more kids, he doesn't need anymore grandchildren. He doesn't have any relationship with my oldest even though I've tried for years to get that to happen but gave up. While my mother was alive, she spent a lot of money and had gone to college to become a licensed nurse. My father seems to think I'm responsible for paying back her bills. He has harassed me over money, because he seems to think I am wealthy, which we have our own student loans and almost 2 kids.
I honestly feel like when he gave my mother's things to my stepmother, it was an attempt to hurt me because he knew I wanted those items to remember my mother and pass down to my children. Would it be rude of me to just directly ask my stepmother for my mother's angel collection back?
My father didn't even wait a month to start dating his high school sweetheart, and was engaged to her before grass even grew on my mother's grave. He never talked to me about it, and I was the last person to know, found out on Facebook of all places. My father moved in with her, and gave my parent's house to my little sister who has 3 kids and can't afford anything, so he still pays the mortgage and most of the bills. My sister took over the house and all my childhood stuff was thrown out, along with a lot of my mother's things. The valuable stuff that was hers, my father gave them to my now stepmother. This included a lot of things that were important to me. The only thing I have of my mother's is 1 ring and a picture of me and her from when I was little. She collected angels and had a large collection of them, which I also collect them and would've loved to have them. My father gave them to my stepmother and they are sitting on shelves throughout her house.
My father and I don't get along. He's very sexist, racist, homophobic, etc, etc and hates that both my husband and I are democratic human rights advocates. My sister and her husband share his values. My husband is an attorney who is constantly fighting for people, and I also do a lot to stand up for equality such as protest and speak out. My father is also very selfish, and rarely thinks about other people. I'm also pregnant with my second child after years of unexplained infertility, which my father stopped talking to me completely and blocked me on social media when he found out. He claims that my sister just had 2 more kids, he doesn't need anymore grandchildren. He doesn't have any relationship with my oldest even though I've tried for years to get that to happen but gave up. While my mother was alive, she spent a lot of money and had gone to college to become a licensed nurse. My father seems to think I'm responsible for paying back her bills. He has harassed me over money, because he seems to think I am wealthy, which we have our own student loans and almost 2 kids.
I honestly feel like when he gave my mother's things to my stepmother, it was an attempt to hurt me because he knew I wanted those items to remember my mother and pass down to my children. Would it be rude of me to just directly ask my stepmother for my mother's angel collection back?
