A year or two ago, I was with a group of people in a public bar. One guy who happened to tag along with us was drunk, aggressive, loud and obnoxious.
I was being triggered emotionally and had to get out of there, not knowing if he would become violent.
A close friend of mine was there and noticed something was wrong with me. I asked her yesterday to describe what she saw in me. She said:
"I didn't see the whole thing when it started, but at some point I noticed you became very withdrawn. You're normally extroverted, strong, smiling and engaged at social functions.
Your face and posture seemed very still, tight, ridged, frozen. Seemed as though you weren't there...or trying to make yourself disappear. When we talked, you seemed frightened and upset and wanted to leave immediately but I guess you were in conflict not wanting to cause a scene or take me away from my duties as I had organized the outing. But from the tone in your voice, words you expressed...it was clear that you had to get out of there."