Bedroom talk

[Deleted member 37474]

thank you so much. I do want to respect his / our confidentiality boundaries but it is complicated because...

I tried solving my ptsd on my own for 8 months by being on this site, talking to a close friend and doing a ptsd CBT type of workbook. Though I was still functioning and learning grounding techniques it never got any better, until I began therapy. Why are you avoiding therapy?

 

[echo]

I tried solving my ptsd on my own for 8 months by being on this site, talking to a close friend and doin...

12 years after escaping my childrens' father, I started counseling. she kept wanting to revisit that situation, which by then was a lifetime ago. that's when flashbacks began to happen and I spent weeks at a time inside my house. 5 years later I was raped again in an almost identical but sudden situation. I do not think I will survive therapy this time.

 

[blackemerald1]

It's the quality of the therapist that will not only help you survive but maybe even thrive?
You can try a different therapist if you give it a decent go & find he/she isn't helping.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@echo You’d be surprised at what we can endure. Therapy will help, you just have to find the right therapist to work with. And the fact that the flashbacks started in therapy, is because something triggered them. It’s a place to start. We’ve all Been there, done that....

 

[Jewelz742200]

Well... if you do emdr, you don’t have to say much. However, I am confused. You consider stuff you...

It gets very confusing at times. My head goes one way my body another. It’s insane at times. Flashbacks pop up out of nowhere and I disassociate next and lastly curl up into a ball. My girlfriend is at a loss. After everything is said and done I’m a wreck inside and the mood vanished. Oh well we can try again next time and hope for the best

 

[Gs172003]

12 years after escaping my childrens' father, I started counseling. she kept wanting to revisit that situa...

You don't have to talk about anything you arent ready to no matter what the therapist says.

 

[echo]

I didn't. but still flashbacks. I didn't know what tey were at the time, until recently, actually.
sex is really difficult. he says when more good has happened than bad, it will be better.

 

[Jewelz742200]

I’m lucky I have an understanding girlfriend who gets it. She prefers to cuddle more than having sex.

 

[whiteraven]

I separate the notion of "bedroom talk" from "talk about sexual abuse." And yes, I was abused in the bedroom. Sex may be triggering in and of itself, but because the two are different, I don't feel like I am betraying my partner by talking about it with my therapist.

Sometimes, it takes a long while before we understand the profound differences between what happens in the bedroom with a partner and what we talk about with our therapists.

I think the key is to go very slowly and at a pace that is comfortable for you.

 

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[EveHarrington]

Healing isn't solely a matter of us having more good sexual experiences than bad. Yes, this can help, but PTSD has never been about quantity of good VS bad (in terms of being diagnosed).