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I don't know if this is the right forum for this, because I never seem to pick the right one. Sometimes when the anxiety is high my frontal cortex is not in action.
So this might seem like a very obvious thing to many people but it occurs to me I might be having an unrealistic view of how life works. I have this idea that you should know every thing before you go into a situation so you can respond properly. But life is not like that is it? It is only on TV that people can always know what is the right thing to do is.
So would it be fair to say, it is okay to make mistakes, you can have good judgement and mistakes can still be make, because as a human being you can't know everything about a situation, that is being a live and human, you can't control everything. So even if you make a good judgement at the time, for the information and skills you have, things might still go wrong because you don't have the skills or the information. You can't do it right all the time because it is not possible?
So even if you do have good judgement and thinking things won't always go right, and that doesn't mean that you are a bad person. It just means that you need to learn more in the situation or it wasn't a situation to be managed that well?
I guess I am trying to understand how being in this now works. I haven't had a lot of practice at it. I shut down but I am not doing that as much anymore. I have changed a lot of behaviours but I still am maybe overly perfectionistic.
Does anyone get that? Anyone struggled with avoidance and coming out of avoidance they have kind of had to think about this stuff?
So this might seem like a very obvious thing to many people but it occurs to me I might be having an unrealistic view of how life works. I have this idea that you should know every thing before you go into a situation so you can respond properly. But life is not like that is it? It is only on TV that people can always know what is the right thing to do is.
So would it be fair to say, it is okay to make mistakes, you can have good judgement and mistakes can still be make, because as a human being you can't know everything about a situation, that is being a live and human, you can't control everything. So even if you make a good judgement at the time, for the information and skills you have, things might still go wrong because you don't have the skills or the information. You can't do it right all the time because it is not possible?
So even if you do have good judgement and thinking things won't always go right, and that doesn't mean that you are a bad person. It just means that you need to learn more in the situation or it wasn't a situation to be managed that well?
I guess I am trying to understand how being in this now works. I haven't had a lot of practice at it. I shut down but I am not doing that as much anymore. I have changed a lot of behaviours but I still am maybe overly perfectionistic.
Does anyone get that? Anyone struggled with avoidance and coming out of avoidance they have kind of had to think about this stuff?
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