New here. Need some help - triggered by therapist

[Justmehere]

Whoa.... He’s horrible!

Well no wonder you feel terrible. None of that is ever supposed to happen in therapy. This isn’t being triggered. You are having an understandable response to someone being very unprofessional. Don’t ever go back to him!

Are you able to get connected to a new therapist ASAP?

 

[Abstract]

I also wondered so that I can better answer but totally understand if its too difficult. If there is an investigation then I am assuming it is something that would constitute misconduct? Rather than not liking the tone or style of therapy.

Welcome here.

The problem of course when anything happens in therapy is that it can make it really hard to engage in therapy thereafter. I've certainly ended up in that place despite nothing criminal having happened. Just some nasty transference stuff, bad therapy and someone digging around in things they weren't qualified to deal with.

How to approach it? I think you have to patient with yourselves. Also, if there is anyone that is a treater in any way that you trust then try to engage as much as possible. PTSD brains latch onto ideas of unsafeness and that then becomes bigger and bigger. There are good people out there. If you can prove that to yourselves its helpful. Is there anyone your son likes?

 

[Brokenwings74]

Whoa.... He’s horrible!

Well no wonder you feel terrible. None of that is ever supposed to happen in therapy. This isn’t being triggered. You are having an understandable response to someone being very unprofessional. Don’t ever go back to him!

Are you able to get connected to a new therapist ASAP?

Oh i definatly will never go back to him. Yea weve actually met a new therapist. Hard for either of us to trust now though. Heck we need therapy just from our last therapy

 

[Abstract]

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry. :(( I am so glad you are out. Your poor son too.

You know what? The only good part of it is once you are switched onto things being wrong and what that can look like you will be able to see it straight away in the future.

If you can both tolerate some safe contact with a good therapist or treater that will probably be helpful.
PS. Ah. That is really good. Credit to you both and no wonder you need therapy to deal with that therapy. So sorry.

 

[Brokenwings74]

Thank you very much!

I also wondered so that I can better answer but totally understand if its too difficult. If there is an investigation then I am assuming it is something that would constitute misconduct? Rather than not liking the tone or style of therapy.

Welcome here.

The problem of course when anything happens in therapy is that it can make it really hard to engage in therapy thereafter. I've certainly ended up in that place despite nothing criminal having happened. Just some nasty transference stuff, bad therapy and someone digging around in things they weren't qualified to deal with.

How to approach it? I think you have to patient with yourselves. Also, if there is anyone that is a treater in any way that you trust then try to engage as much as possible. PTSD brains latch onto ideas of unsafeness and that then becomes bigger and bigger. There are good people out there. If you can prove that to yourselves its helpful. Is there anyone your son likes?

He doesnt take to people very well actually and this made it horrible

 

[Abstract]

He doesnt take to people very well actually and this made it horrible

I can imagine. :( I am so sorry. Are adults more or less difficult for him usually?

 

[Brokenwings74]

I can imagine. :( I am so sorry. Are adults more or less difficult for him usually?

More but he struggles with peers as well. He has social anxiety

 

[DharmaGirl]

You must have my old therapist! No, but I had one like him. I stayed for 5 years because he was abusive, and I guess that's what I'm used to. My friend told me that if I hadn't been getting better, she would have worried about him. I think I got better despite him. I was having therapy dealing with his therapy, but I had to take a financial break.

 

[Brokenwings74]

You must have my old therapist! No, but I had one like him. I stayed for 5 years because he was abusive, and I guess that's what I'm used to. My friend told me that if I hadn't been getting better, she would have worried about him. I think I got better despite him. I was having therapy dealing with his therapy, but I had to take a financial break.

Im so sorry you experienced this too but it does help to know this does happen. Hopefully its rare but at least i know you understand. Thank you