Question about people

[ILoveLife]

So.. yeah.. just throwing it out there... Once you accept you have trauma, you'll be able to accept you have consequences of trauma too. :P Just sayin! Don't throw your shoes at me :D

 

[MyWillow]

Lol and guess how many adverts for shoes just popped up ? How do you feel about a pink western boot? Hahahahaha

Yeah I know. I’m working on it ;)

 

[ILoveLife]

Lol! I see them. They are love-ly! ??

 

[Justmehere]

Everyone struggles in some way or another in life.

There are lots of people who do not feel fear and anxiety as strongly or as quickly as some PTSD sufferers.

I remember one good season I asked my therapist if my much more average responses to triggers are more like what those without PTSD feel. She said “yes” and it threw me to imagine what that is like all the time. Our normal every day experiences isn’t the same as the the normal every day experiences of all others.

Healthy emotional life isn’t an absence of feeling either. I know people who are healthier emotionally than those with PTSD. I mean, yeah. Some people don’t have mental illness. Sometimes they have other challenges in life.

Are we the healthy ones?! :laugh:

We are the ones with a hell of a lot of courage. :)

 

[Mach123]

Yes they are normal or they don't have cPTSD so they'll do till normal comes along.

In the shortest of shorthand I'm hyper vigilant. ( I was, it's much less now) My reactions to simple stimulus that would have little or no effect on someone who doesn't have it, were off the chart. Or put another way, I was way too upset for what was actually going on (because my feelings were not about what was actually going on they were from my trauma) to the point I really was not able to function. I don't care about normal, I just want to be able to function. Other people could, I could see it.

 

[Abstract]

Haven't read it all yet @Sietz but looking forward to doing so!

My take after obsessively watching people and trying to suss this out is that it varies a whole big lot. I also find it helpful to think in terms of healthy or unhealthy. Emotional intelligence wise. ;) Intensity is different to me and is related to cause and personality. Heaven knows if that makes sense or not.

I have definitely met people who on the whole are very healthy emotion wise. They seem to be very connected to themselves. On the whole know what they feel and why they feel it. Respond appropriotely and in a situation appropriate way. Aren't ashemd or hung about emotions. Move on and get on with life.

Then of course you find masses of people without diagnosed mental health issues or who think they have no issues whatsover and who are emotionally repressed, have hangups about emotions, express emotions extremely unhealthily ect etc etc. I find I often feel the most emotionally intelligent person in the room in work situations these days and that frankly is sad as I need plenty of work!!!!

 

[Sideways]

Yeqh, I’ve met a few people in my time who really impressed me with their amazing combo of not only personal insight, but a matching ability to manage emotions as they come & go.

Emotional intelligence. It’s a thing. Someone wrote a book about it.

 

[ILoveLife]

Someone wrote a book about it.

I actually have it. Daniel Coleman? Goleman?

 

[Sideways]

Goleman

Goldman? I’m having a blonde moment, but yeah, that’s the one.

 

[shatter eyes]

Normal is boring.
I am wormal.. weird.

I dont understand normal people they complain over small things like furniture mismatch being traumstizing.


Oh its Golman... emotional intelligence

 

[Rani G2]

No catastrophes = Knowing one’sown biographical/historical/ timeline... conscious of oneself ( Except one develops Parkinson’s, early dementia, accidents etc etc)

Trauma (Also depending on tons of other factors)= Un conscious of oneself. Timeline is interrupted/ running on survival mode / Situations frozen in time and place so is also ones internal processing.

Still no answer from myside about how „normal people feel“. It’s the person and the situation.. someone said

 

[TTC18]

Here I was thinking it was going to be a simple question ie what do you think about people? (Answer: they suck and they are dangerous. Dogs? Awesome. Cats? Predictable).

Hahahahaha

HAHA yes, this was my exact thought!! Although I'd characterize cats as adorable. LOL