Crazy neighbor moved all my porch furniture and then moved her things in

[ladee]

Loving what you are doing with all that woman put before you to deal with. Turning it into learning and healing.

I'm glad she is gone. That is usually what happens with bullies. Once someone stands up to them in ways they can't get around, they leave.

This has taken it's toll on you, and you are taking steps to get your power back. Very inspirational.. and super proud you held on to your integrity during it all. You are stronger than me when it comes to something like this...

Keep us updated on your healing progress. Glad this is over. And enjoy your porch !!! Get a special plant to put out there, so every time you see it, it will remind you that you perservered thru it all, and came out a stronger woman on the other side!!!!

 

[Friday]

She leaves it next to her door and inches it closer and closer to my window where she stands to snoop into my window,

What do you think about printing a “greeting card” / name tag kind of sized thing to face the window on your sill so she gets a bit of a surprise the next time she does it? :sneaky: It’s one of those things that since you can’t see it from the ground, if she’s not being a prying bitch no harm / no foul... and the side facing your interior can be all pretty, you can change them out periodically... but if she does get all creepy? It’s a smack on the nose.

What you’re doing is called stalking.

Being a Peeping Tom is illegal. And also gross.

f*ck Off Bitch

 

[KwanYingirl]

Love it @Friday

 

[KwanYingirl]

Well bad news from my lawyer. She wrote him one of her famous emails that have no logic. She just loves doing this stuff. On and on like she’s got her doctorate but really she’s illiterate and you can hardly understand her point. Anyway she sent him a plan of the porch with arrows on it and it says limited common element. So she claims that gives her the right to my porch still. And he said he thinks she’s right. Well, I informed him that by definition a limited common element applies to one or more, but NOT all of the units. Second of all it is a picture that someone drew arrows in by hand ( hers maybe?) and it does not express the written law which takes precedence in any conflict. Then he said I’m right and he sent her another great response and reiterated the distress her intrusions on my privacy cause me and to stay away from my window.
Now I did immediately have a visceral reaction with a crash in my mood, but by golly I proved that I read the laws and she’s wrong and the drawing is wrong. I will prevail but in the meantime he asked me to put my fence at an angle giving her some room. I agreed and I put my plant stand under my window. If she touches it, I’ll put the fence back. The written law is the law. I don’t owe her a thing. My mother died Monday, this is not what I needed today. I made an appt with my therapist tomorrow. This time I’m going to meditate daily, eat well, get support try like hell not to get dissociative even though right now I would love to cut my arms. Satan in drag. That’s all she is.

 

[blackemerald1]

And he said he thinks she’s right.

Then he said I’m right and he sent her another great response and reiterated the distress her intrusions on my privacy cause me and to stay away from my window.

^^Is this lawyer really up to speed on the law - are you paying him? I hope not much.

, but by golly I proved that I read the laws and she’s wrong and the drawing is wrong. I

^^Well done you!

Taking over the porch completely and excluding your rights as well as looking in your window which is very creepy should just not be allowed. Are you waiting for her to move stuff again or catch her looking in your window. Can you video her being creepy?

My mother died Monday, this is not what I needed today.

I was so shocked when I read this. I am so sorry your mother passed away. :hug: I don't know what your relationship with your mother was like so I hope I am not speaking out of turn. Thinking of you right now.

I made an appt with my therapist tomorrow. This time I’m going to meditate daily, eat well, get support try like hell not to get dissociative even though right now I would love to cut my arms. Satan in drag. That’s all she is.

Yes, yes & more yes's!! Good plan.

Don't want to end this post on a bad note but can you push her and her furniture off the balcony too? :oops: I know... I should go and take some drugs and calm the f^k down... sorry!

 

[KwanYingirl]

The lawyer writes great letters and they will come in handy when I get a restraining order. She started emailing him nonstop and so he totally gets what a crackpot she is. Now it’s up to the association to get its declaration in order which we are doing. It takes time. If she displeases me one more time she’s going to end up with a criminal record. As of the last time I looked she had put my things back where they belong. I’m getting reiki tonight.

 

[freebird]

Install cameras on your porch. Then put up a sign in your window that says SMILE. YOU'RE ON CAMERA. The point is to catch her snooping in your window/screwing around with your things, so if she can read the sign in your window, that means she is on camera, and now she knows it! Guilty! Cameras catch criminals better than cops.

Anyway hope she doesn't come back (unless it's to get her things and move out).

 

[KwanYingirl]

@freebird I am going to install a camera. Just takes time to save the money. Rosie needs to be spayed before she goes into heat and I desperately need new glasses. I’m buying them online this time saving me about $250.

 

[blackemerald1]

@KwanYingirl you could go to a two dollar shop and buy a little sign that says "surveillance camera in use" and pop it facing onto your porch from inside your apartment window.

I know you are saving for the video but the sign may have the desired effect long before you install the camera.

 

[freebird]

Yes that's true. Hopefully she is not as snoopy that she'll figure out there isn't one. If you have to wait on installing a camera, maybe the good neighbors can help out and whip out their phone cameras if they see trouble too? I would have a little fun with that sign, and have some popcorn ready when that camera is installed?

 

[rosey]

she is a right sort. If your window is of so much interest to her I would be tempted to play a little. Put a poster up in the window of something she is unlikely to like, keeping it legal of course. Have some fun with it it might take the pressure off a bit. Leave a nice drink on the arm rest for her, make it seem like she is not actually annoying you that will drive her mad.

 

[KwanYingirl]

She’s still calling and emailing my lawyer. Now he sees what life is like with her. He asked me if I could make some room for her that isn’t by the window. I said yes, but she rejected the generous area I offered her. So the final bridge has been burned. She is not getting a single inch of my space. Certifiable narcissist who is loving all the attention. But karma is a bitch and now she’s lost all of what she’s been given in the past for which she never said thank you. I’m so done with this.