DID Birthdays=confusion and sadness

[Punky143]

Tomorrow is the birthday but not just any, one of those bigger ones. That's the problem. My parts don't age and only the body gets older. It's so confusing to know it's the birthday and think it's someone else, not us. I will not be bringing any attention to it and will spend the day having no idea who's birthday it truly is and it makes me sad.

 

[TruthSeeker]

Tomorrow is the birthday but not just any, one of those bigger ones. That's the problem. My parts don't age and only the body gets older. It's so confusing to know it's the birthday and think it's someone else, not us. I will not be bringing any attention to it and will spend the day having no idea who's birthday it truly is and it makes me sad.

@Punky143 I have the same feeling- getting older, not feeling me, not knowing whose how old- so Zi unified birthday and stopped overthinking it cause of parts. My parts drove me crazy when I didn’t acknowledge them and have our BD party. The parts are a part of me, and all serve a function- so us did have a birthday- in December( long ago!)

So don’t all your parts deserve a birthday recognition?
Why don’t you plan a party with your parts? It might be more fun than you know.

I get presents on Amazon for mine ( art supplies, clothes, music stuff, computer stuff, books, etc) for BD and Xmas. Buy them all- and you presents- or do something fun!

Amazon boxes are like Xmas to me/us! It’s fun.
You might consider asking your parts to help you celebrate and plan their/your birthday! What movie might they like to see or get one of those 2 ft by 10 ft blow up pools for the back yard. They can get wet and you can relax! Have a favorite food they all like- pizza???! And yes, a BD cupcake-w 1 candle could be fun. You all physically will be one year older-can’t fight that one-so you might as well accept your BD is coming, will come, with or w/o you celebrating.

You won’t hear headnoise/negativity like I have in the past-on my BD when I got all funky over it- and yes, let it pass( poor me)- then be reminded the next year not to let it pass.
iconsider it’s your family’s BD so maybe you might treat it like one- for you all! Good Luck! And happy birthday!? Hope you have fun!

 

[Ronin]

Not my issue with birthdays of any sort...

But thinking you are allowed to have as many (or none) feasts as you feel like.
Or split them into For one & many / for me & new times even if before they were for someone else. Or have things for other reasons than they used to be, before. Making new meanings, making new memories.

 

[whiteraven]

Why don’t you plan a party with your parts? It might be more fun than you know.

This is what we do. And it IS fun!