Is It Okay To Report A Therapist?

[ppippi]

Hey everyone.
Is it Ok to report a therapist? In what situations does it makse sense to do that. I'm on the fence about reporting my T for not giving full disclosure. Am I out of line?

 

[somerandomguy]

Full disclosure about what?

 

[Justmehere]

If it wasn’t allowable to report a therapist then there would not be offices to take reports.

A few questions to think about working through before reporting:
1.) Have you checked the regulations in your area to see what disclosure is required?
2.) Have you confirmed reports are kept confidential or what information might go where if you report?
3.) Is the outcome you are seeking a possible option with the regulatory office is your area?
4.) Are you in a place mentally to handle the therapist refuting it?

 

[ppippi]

Full disclosure about what?

full disclosure about her skillset. I feel like she didn't tell me how limited her trauma therapy skills were from the beginning. After I invested about 6 months of therapy, she told me she's not a trauma therapist and referred me.

If it wasn’t allowable to report a therapist then there would not be offices to take reports.

A few questions to think about working through before reporting:
1.) Have you checked the regulations in your area to see what disclosure is required?
2.) Have you confirmed reports are kept confidential or what information might go where if you report?
3.) Is the outcome you are seeking a possible option with the regulatory office is your area?
4.) Are you in a place mentally to handle the therapist refuting it?

Good questions, some i havent paid attention to. I checked with the board she's registered with and they said I could file an official complaint, but the things they considered complaints seemed really vague and not defined well.

they basically told me to try and resolve it with her first, then file. I asked her for a refund for misrepresenting herself as a trauma T when she wasn't and she refused and said that if im complaining to the board, she will respond directly to the board.

I don't think I'll get a refund but at the very least i want the outcome of the complaint to be that she is asked or forced to attend training on representing her skills. am i out of line? when i went to her with concerns about DID, i feel like she should have told me she's not a trauma T if she wasn't. Why did she wait 6 months? That's around 5k out of pocket down the drain for me.

i feel like im not out of line but ill wait to see what everyone else thinks before making a definitive decision.

btw hi everyone. I' new...I finally decided to register.

 

[EveHarrington]

Can you explain what she said to you in the beginning regarding her skill set? Say a bit more about these conversations?

 

[somerandomguy]

As annoying and frustrating as it must have been, it's probably not worth pursuing. She referred you out once her limited skills were used up, which is probably all the board will take into consideration.

Keep in mind this is advice offered for free by a random guy on the internet.

Welcome to the forums.

 

[blackemerald1]

I asked her for a refund for misrepresenting herself as a trauma T when she wasn't and she refused and said that if im complaining to the board, she will respond directly to the board.

^So you have told her that you have spoken to the medical board and then asked her for a refund? Do you see the difficult position that places her in? If someone told me they were going to report me for something that I felt I didn't need to worry about... I'd say knock yourself out doing that and no... I'm not giving back the fees I've charged for the time I've spent on your case with you. She's put in the time and effort and having reached the limitation of her skill set is now referring you to someone who can take you further... So @ppippi - you have a lot to prove to show where this T has taken a wrong turn.

Asking for your money back when she has delivered a service for SIX months wouldn't wash with may T's regardless of the threat of a medical board review/complaint.

If she advertised or gave you something in writing (that you can produce to the Board) that says she is a Trauma therapist then maybe... but even then idk...

Who referred you to her or how did you find her?

Therapy has no money back guarantees.

 

[Sideways]

So you have told her that you have spoken to the medical board and then asked her for a refund?

If it played out this way, it would be hard to differentiate from blackmail.

 

[blackemerald1]

Idk whether it's blackmail but it seems like a version of coercion and that's not likely to be a good thing.. nor get ppippi any refund. But it may bring a whole new set of problems to the door. :wtf:
So.. we don't know how that conversation went but imo it probably wasn't received very well... lol... Hence no refund??

 

[lostforgottensoul]

i feel like she should have told me she's not a trauma T if she wasn'

How exactly did she phrase that? If it were "I'm a trauma therapist and work with all trauma then maybe. But just "I'm a trauma therapist" then no. Because there is trauma that is simpler to work through and then there is complex trauma that is harder to work through. Maybe it took her 6 months to dig and figure out she was over her head. Which is totally vaild. It can take some time to figure that out. Trauma therapist's aren't made equal but that doesn't make them any less a trauma therapist just because they can't work with super complex trauma.

You may want to know what is written on paper in your medical file before filing a claim. And any other ways to back your and her claims up? The board will go off of what can be proved. I am guessing. Or it would be a he said she said sort of thing and would be messy. And the only way to back up either of your claims is what was written and/or recorded. So, get your hands on any and all of that before deciding to move foward.

 

[Kubash16]

I had a situation where I went to someone who is a legit trauma therapist. I researched that and made sure to make a point of only going to a T who knows trauma. We hit it off and he genuinely thought he could help me. He did know trauma really well.

But as we dug deeper, he started to realize just how complex and deep my trauma went. There were other factors involved but ultimately I was referred to a really good friend of his. She has technically had less training on trauma, but she’s far more familiar with the type of trauma I’ve experienced. She is also able to push through my stubborn ass lol but that’s beside the point.

I would never consider reporting him to the board, he never did anything unethical. I was extremely hurt by his referral, but it was the more ethical thing for him to do. He could have kept me and continued to work with me and maybe it would have turned out okay. But he didn’t want to take the chance of doing damage through his inexperience.

He did what needed to happen for my healing. Perhaps yours did as well?

Not gonna lie, that shit hurts like hell when you’ve bonded with them.

 

[ppippi]

If it played out this way, it would be hard to differentiate from blackmail.

well i said im in the process of filing a complaint but the board is encouraging me to resolve it with you my ex T first before proceeding. so here i am T..this is why i think you should give me a refund.

How exactly did she phrase that? If it were "I'm a trauma therapist and work with all trauma then maybe. But just "I'm a trauma therapist" then no. Because there is trauma that is simpler to work through and then there is complex trauma that is harder to work through. Maybe it took her 6 months to dig and figure out she was over her head. Which is totally vaild. It can take some time to figure that out. Trauma therapist's aren't made equal but that doesn't make them any less a trauma therapist just because they can't work with super complex trauma.

You may want to know what is written on paper in your medical file before filing a claim. And any other ways to back your and her claims up? The board will go off of what can be proved. I am guessing. Or it would be a he said she said sort of thing and would be messy. And the only way to back up either of your claims is what was written and/or recorded. So, get your hands on any and all of that before deciding to move foward.

she knew i had concerns about DID and decided to see me when she wasn't qualified enough. every time i would hesitate to open up about my trauma with her and do her exercises she would say " i know what i'm doing, you need to trust me". this is what pisses me off.. she indirectly gave me cues leading me to think she was qualified. It was a huge shock for her to turn around in 6 months out of the blue and say "i'm a good therapist, but im no trauma therapist". That's just day/night difference. and mixed messages. bc of what she did, i have issues trusting T's now.

I had a situation where I went to someone who is a legit trauma therapist. I researched that and made sure to make a point of only going to a T who knows trauma. We hit it off and he genuinely thought he could help me. He did know trauma really well.

But as we dug deeper, he started to realize just how complex and deep my trauma went. There were other factors involved but ultimately I was referred to a really good friend of his. She has technically had less training on trauma, but she’s far more familiar with the type of trauma I’ve experienced. She is also able to push through my stubborn ass lol but that’s beside the point.

I would never consider reporting him to the board, he never did anything unethical. I was extremely hurt by his referral, but it was the more ethical thing for him to do. He could have kept me and continued to work with me and maybe it would have turned out okay. But he didn’t want to take the chance of doing damage through his inexperience.

He did what needed to happen for my healing. Perhaps yours did as well?

Not gonna lie, that shit hurts like hell when you’ve bonded with them.

She didn't hurt me. I didn't feel bonded with her. What hurt me is that she led me to think she was qualified. She would boast alot about how awsome of a T she is at the beginning. I would never do that if I was figuring out if i could treat someone. I would not give them false hope. I would be transparent and say, im going to try and help you, trauma is complex, no guarantees, but if your're up for it let's see if we can help you. I would never pretend anything