Relationship Boyfriend with PTSD Left

[Anonymous1234]

Hiya! My boyfriend of two years, whom has PTSD, has left me and my 2 young children. My daughter calls him daddy. He says he loves me and we had a really good relationship. It all happend on my birthday at the end of July.

His aunt is dying of cancer, and I told him to go and see her. He said “but it's your birthday”, and I said “yes, but she's ill and I think you should see her.”

He spent a lot of money on me for my birthday. He did go and see her, and he spent longer there then I thought he would. When he came back he said we need to have a break, and stayed with his female friend. He’s now collected all his stuff and told me he's done with me.

I did lash out a little at him as I didn't understand why he left me for no reason. I was so supportive to him over his auntie. I am hurt and I have no closure. None of my friends can understand it either. He’s emotionally destroyed me. I want him back so much, and love him. He keeps telling me to just leave him alone and move on, which I feel I can't. I always said I would never give up on him as other people in the past have.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Anonymous, in order to get responses, I’ve created a new thread for your post.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

He keeps telling me to just leave him alone and move on, which I feel I can't. I always said I would never give up on him as other people in the past have

This seems like a request on his part. You are not giving up on him if he asked you to move on and leave him alone. Why can't you do that? I see abandonment as someone leaving when asked not to leave. Not leaving when asked to. That's more honoring a request. So, I have to ask, why can't you honor his request? Especially when you post

He’s emotionally destroyed me.

What's keeping you from moving on? Especially if he has emotionally distroyed you.