Maid of Honour-ing

[bellbird]

My cousin has asked me to be her maid of honour for her wedding in January!

I've actually never even been to a wedding (which she knew), but I'm very excited and want to do very good by her.

Does anyone have any tips from being a maid of honour (or bridesmaid); things your bride really did (or didn't) appreciate/like/benefit from.

Or, alternatively, if you've been a bride, what are some things your MOH did that really helped/etc.?

Or, just some tips in general?

Much appreciated :happy:

 

[BrownLea12]

What an honor!! My maid of honor was kind of the buffer between me and some of my family. She made sure everyone in the bridal party was included in planning and helping things to go off. She also kept on the girls about fittings and dresses, scheduled events, etc so i didn’t have to worry about it. Just ask your bride if she has any special things she wants or doesn’t want. You’ll do just fine!

 

[bellbird]

Thanks, @BrownLea12 ! :)

 

[Sideways]

Note that down: you are valued as a super special reliable friend:)

Buffer between the bride and the bridesmaids when it comes to dresses. If there’s bridesmaids (plural), make sure you’re rock solid with the look that the bride is after, then step in and hold the line for the bride when one of them (inevitably) decides this really doesn’t work for them personally because...

The big pressure will be on the morning IME. Know the plan, have a schedule, keep things flowing. If bride is stressed, be ready to reassure her that everything is going according to plan. If bride is relaxed, keep things going according to plan so that she can enjoy the morning, but at a sensible pace (cause it’s a long day).

Try and accommodate the bride’s mum if she’s in the picture. She’s potentially as important as anyone else in the room, but may feel out of place among the bride and the bride’s friends.

And try and enjoy yourself;)

 

[Mach123]

You've never been to a wedding how exciting. I love weddings and I worked at them for years in a five star hotel. We did weddings that were absurdly nice and expensive.

But that's not what weddings are about and I cry at weddings. I hope you have such a nice time it's a beautiful thing to be involved in and such a special privilege to be so favored by the bride.

 

[Freida]

This is so exciting and such an honor!!!

Depending on how big the wedding is your job may run from just putting on the bachelorette party and driving the bride to wrangling an entire team of relatives who hate each other :laugh:

It can be pretty stressful so it's going to be a great chance at using coping and calming skills for both you and the bride

here's the crazy bride mantra...memorize and repeat as necessary :laugh:

If things don't go exactly like you wanted them to its still going to be fantastic. People won't care if the cake falls down or the roof flies off the building. All they will care about is seeing a beautiful, happy couple at the best moment of their lives

 

[Teasel]

The only time I did this I'd not fone it before rotherham and had to clue what it involved. Turned out she wanted help covering a spot with makeup.

I guess ask her what she'd like?

Hope you enjoy it :) lovely to be asked :)

 

[bellbird]

Note that down: you are valued as a super special reliable friend:)

Ohh, thank you for that :) :)

Thank you all so much for your responses -- ideas noted, and very very appreciated!

I really do feel so honoured to have been asked by my bride to be her MOH. I cried when she asked me, and then she was crying too. Very unexpected. Very humbled.

The bride's mum is in the picture and I have a good relationship with her (she's my aunt, also :)

I've sent my bride a message since my OP, and thanks to the suggestion by y'all, to ask her if there's anything in particular she'd like my help/etc with between now and the wedding, and that I'm very happy to. She said she'll think on it and get back to me.

I'm glad I did that. As I was getting a little worried about the communication channel between us and was wondering whether she's maybe (understandably) stressed, since I had sent her a message a while back asking if she had decided on her other bridesmaids yet (she hadn't when she asked me) but she just didn't reply. I wouldn't want to badger her or anything but I also figure I need to stay in the loop to be able to carry out my duties.

Definitely going to be a big test of my coping skills, so I've started being more mindful of my own breathing in advance, and adding meditations back into my mornings. I will also have some PRN handy on the day in case I need it. And do some work with T on things that may come up between now and then.

And @Freida -- that mantra is awesome :laugh: definitely going to need to learn that one.

 

[bellbird]

Going wedding dress shopping with my bride in about an hour! :happy: :happy: :happy: