Froggirl28
New Here
I have been in a relationship with a military combat vet for almost a year. About a month ago he has distanced himself from me. Prior to him distancing himself, he was very present in our relationship. He was the one who initiated contact first. In fact he was the one who said I love you first. He never would hang up the phone or leave without saying he loved me. Now all of a sudden, he is saying I just don't know where I am at right now and will not say I love you back when I say it to him. Most days he will call me in the morning and talk briefly and then after that he will not contact me unless I initiate contact and rarely responds when I contact him. If he does respond, it's hours later and short one or two word responses. He has had a lot going on lately which has caused him stress and says it's not me but I can't help but think I have done something to make him distance himself. He does not seem to want to or make plans see me which prior to the past month we would go a day without seeing each other even if it was for a short time. I have told him that I am giving him his space that I love him and am here when he wants to talk. He responds by saying I know.. I am struggling with the silence. I am an overthinker so my brain goes into overload and tries to figure out what I did to cause him to distance himself or what can I do to make it through this or is there someone else. All sorts of scenarios run through my head which are keeping me up at night. I love him with all my heart and don't want to lose him and the relationship we have built over the past year but the silence is killing me. What do I do? Do I still contact him or wait for him to initiate the contact with me? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
