it's a tough question, since I'm not sure why you're asking it? I'd hate to run down a list, and maybe make you feel worse about something. I'll tell you I've lost friends, since you asked, but will add that my T has been able to point out the exact issue behind this ( avoidance ) and I can deal with that now. James is reclaiming his dignity, which was stolen from him, as everyone really is yes, mourning the losses but finding things of value in healing.
I don't mean to 'preach', especially if you're not feeling all that well at the moment. It's just rather a 'loaded' question, and one which could encourage you to feel even worse, you know? Certainly there's loss associated with this intrusive, destructive thing. A loss by virtue creates a void, which also by virtue becomes filled by something eventually, that's all. Hopefully it would be something good.
I hope that made sense.
Take care,
Anni