Trouble

[Allison]

So my boyfriend knew I have ptsd! Anxiety and depression! But he chose to provoke and he triggered my ptsd he called me a word that my mom called me after I was molested! He triggered it but I was arrested and charged! I’m in counseling and on meds but how the hell does he get away!!

 

[MrMoonlight]

I'm sorry you were intentionally triggered like that. It's not fair for a person to do that.

 

[Allison]

No it’s not he’s been wanting to get our daughter away from me so he intentionally done that

 

[NIKI]

Oh Allison, so sorry to hear that. I'm glad you have counseling to help you through. This forum should be a great help to you also. Welcome to the forum.

 

[MrMoonlight]

So he triggers you with the hopes you go off the rail. So manipulative...are you receiving help right now? My mom triggers me in the same way. Different goals I guess but similar struggles. I have to take serious meds to control my anxiety, anger, explosiveness...I also go into every interaction expecting to be messed with...though it's impossible to do that all the time.

 

[Allison]

Yes he did it take my daughter away

 

[NIKI]

Is that a pattern of his to gaslight you?

 

[Allison]

Yup! Now I’m facing charges! I’m hoping with me telling the judge it gets dropped! It’s not freaking fair!

 

[joeylittle]

He triggered it but I was arrested and charged! I’m in counseling and on meds but how the hell does he get away!!

If you don't mind my asking - it sounds like you were triggered, and then you did something...what did you do that led to the arrest?

 

[Allison]

If you don't mind my asking - it sounds like you were triggered, and then you did something...what did you do that led to the arrest?

Apparently hit him but I don’t remember much just that he triggered me and I flashbacked

 

[Friday]

my boyfriend knew I have ptsd! Anxiety and depression! But he chose to provoke

PTSD isn’t an excuse to treat people badly.

I haven’t assaulted anyone on accident for a long time, now... but it’s still assault. Or manslaughter/murder, depending on how far it goes.

People who spin up into fight have to learn to control themselves, for the safety of everyone else around them, a lot more urgently than most people who spin up into flight. (Not always, flight can be just as lethal, depending on the circumstance).

A VERY big part of that? Taking responsibility for your actions. It doesn’t matter how much anyone is provoked. You could literally be saving someone’s life, that level of provocation / immediate threat to life... but your actions? Are still your own. Self control? Means no one can make you do anything. Learning self control is a bitch, but also absolutely necessary. Which means it’s no one else’s responsibility to control you, or to manage your triggers for you; we’re each of us responsible for our own triggers, and our own actions.

 

[Allison]

No he called a word my mom called me after I was molested and I had a flashback I owned up to it! I got out of jail and into counseling! On a new med

Plus I wasn’t diagnosed until Thursday!