Emotionally Absent Father
As a university student and later at work, I often tried to connect with a professor or a manager to seek advice, suggestions, help with something that wasn’t related to work or education. I just needed someone manly enough to guide me through small issues such as caring for my health. After nearly 7 years of graduating from university, I realised I was looking for a father-like figure, a male role model to seek connection with.
My father always has been emotionally sleeping; as if he is emotionally dead, but physically alive. Surprisingly, he comes to life when he NEEDS to help or guide others of my or my brothers’ age. He has all the time, empathy, knowledge, and mental capacity when it comes to helping those who never cared for him nor did they ask for his help, guidance, assistance, etc.
Surprisingly, such people are so common in my relatives. Fathers ignore their own sons emotionally, and when the sons grow up emotionally abandoned, and the side-effect, usually self-abandonment in education, work, etc., kick in, another elderly male steps in, uninvited, to sort things out. Quite surprisingly, the elderly male figure himself has done to his own sons, the exact same thing that he is trying to help another man’s son with. Another elderly male figure then steps in to help his sons with life issues.
If fathers don’t abandon their sons emotionally, their sons would never end up with need to be guided, counselled, etc. by outsiders.
As a university student and later at work, I often tried to connect with a professor or a manager to seek advice, suggestions, help with something that wasn’t related to work or education. I just needed someone manly enough to guide me through small issues such as caring for my health. After nearly 7 years of graduating from university, I realised I was looking for a father-like figure, a male role model to seek connection with.
My father always has been emotionally sleeping; as if he is emotionally dead, but physically alive. Surprisingly, he comes to life when he NEEDS to help or guide others of my or my brothers’ age. He has all the time, empathy, knowledge, and mental capacity when it comes to helping those who never cared for him nor did they ask for his help, guidance, assistance, etc.
Surprisingly, such people are so common in my relatives. Fathers ignore their own sons emotionally, and when the sons grow up emotionally abandoned, and the side-effect, usually self-abandonment in education, work, etc., kick in, another elderly male steps in, uninvited, to sort things out. Quite surprisingly, the elderly male figure himself has done to his own sons, the exact same thing that he is trying to help another man’s son with. Another elderly male figure then steps in to help his sons with life issues.
If fathers don’t abandon their sons emotionally, their sons would never end up with need to be guided, counselled, etc. by outsiders.
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