Has anyone tried DBR (deep brain reorienting)?

[beaneeboo]

That's me as well. Raising the hypothetical possibility of remembering the trauma is so dysregulating. Intrusive memories are my worst symptom.

I hear you!

For adult me, I'm almost fed up of this response now but it's so incredibly strong, like a hard armour. So I'm having to learn to respect it. Which has in turn reduced the critical voice and SI reactions and SH.

So I'm really hoping that DBR will be permitted by all of my parts... I feel like it may be the only way to process some of the really hard stuff

 

[Freddyt]

So I'm really hoping that DBR will be permitted by all of my parts... I feel like it may be the only way to process some of the really hard stuff

I don't learn about therapy before we do it, but after...

So what you describe is exactly what DBR is for. The moments you can't break through.

Just tell your parts its like story time, because it really is in a way....

 

[beaneeboo]

I don't learn about therapy before we do it, but after...

So what you describe is exactly what DBR is for. The moments you can't break through.

Just tell your parts its like story time, because it really is in a way....

That's a good idea I'll try that...

I've also realised that adult me gets very into trying to understand the theory of things like new therapy approaches, I think to try to get round some parts feeling like they are going to have something done 'to' them (as opposed to willingly engage)... but I've been reflecting just recently that in some ways in doing that, I'm trying to control the process in my system possibly too much and maybe i just need to let go and follow the process a bit more, trusting T to do his job... although I guess that is part of the issue for some parts

Anyway, thanks

 

[Freddyt]

I've also realised that adult me gets very into trying to understand the theory of things like new therapy approaches, I think to try to get round some parts feeling like they are going to have something done 'to' them

I would too except for a sports psychologist. I play golf and adding up your score halfway through the round is a ritual. /he said it built expectations and allowed limitations to creep in.
IE: That was really good, I will probably screw up on the back 9, and they shoot their usual score.
That was really bad. I give up on today, and they shoot their usual score.

When I stopped doing more than adding up my score for each hole and entering it, my scores improved. It's a weird thing but we make our expectations come true. It's why you see people here struggle over and over saying "Oh no not again...." They expected it and whether conscious or not, their mind gives them what they want.

It's why changing your thinking is important.

 

[beaneeboo]

/he said it built expectations and allowed limitations to creep in.

Yes i really get this... love your analogy ... and it's something that's been an issue for me my whole life...I have lived by keeping score of everything and learning about things in way more depth than other people... my amnesia has made parts of me do that because of being so scared about forgetting things, I put in 200% to try to stop that happening (this was before understanding that amnesia doesn't work like that) ... but i feel at the same time, like it gives me more control in a situation i don't actually have much control in...

But lately I'm really beginning to see the drawback of doing this and that it's limiting me...

Thanks for saying what you did as it felt confirming and very relevant... like I needed to hear it

Letting go and going with the flow is very hard... it's ultimately trusting isn't it?

 

[Freddyt]

Letting go and going with the flow is very hard... it's ultimately trusting isn't it?

In my case, I was taking golf lessons and it just seemed I wasn't improving.
Then I got the ultimate kick in the butt, I was playing a resort course, Silvertip.
The course is complex and difficult. It never dawned on me when the lady of the couple I was playing with asked if I was a scratch golfer at the turn I was playing well. I just went on playing and, later at the hotel, I entered my score card into the handicap system I found I had shot my first round ever in the 70's. So, not paying attention to the score, let me just play the game and when I just played the shot in front of me, hole by hole and focused on the target - I did something I had wanted to do my whole life.

The progress I thought I saw, wasn't the progress I was making. When my mind just focused on the next shot, the total result was what I wanted. I followed that path all the way to my other goal, a single digit Handicap.

That paired with something else. The sports psychologist said "You have to believe you are good before you can be good." Pretty opposite of what we are told. So I kept a notebook, and wrote positive statements in it like "I am a very good putter." and with reading it every time I practised, I became a very good putter.

So I have 3 pages of POSITIVE statements of what I wanted in my golf game in my golf notebook.

In a different one - I have positive statements of what I want in my life. They are not all true yet, but how I see myself has changed. I accept change. I can take on new therapy. Even when it does not look like it - progress is being made. I am not what happened to me, I am what I chose to become.

It seems the opposite of how we are told things work, but when what we were taught doesn't work....right?