Contacting Someone With Ptsd

[forcesunified]

About a year ago, this girl I was interested in told me that she had ptsd. After, she discontinued contact with me. I told her that I just wanted her to find someone that she loved, and she said that meant a lot to her. I have never contacted her since then, as I told her I thought she didn't want contact from me anymore. Recently, I noticed on facebook (I'm not on her friends' list) that she is in a relationship with somebody. Even though I still have feelings for her (even a whole year later with no contact) I can't express how happy I am that she has overcome her fear of closeness and is in a relationship. My question is, would it be okay for me to text her saying that I'm happy for all that she has accomplished and that I hope she is happy in a new relationship?

 

[Don]

About a year ago, this girl I was interested in ,,,,, would it be okay for me to text her saying ....?

I do think your August 2010 topic, "Confused New Carer" (topic closed to further replies), more than amply covered this topic.

I agree with the consensus back then. Please do not contact her.

Don

 

[Heather]

she discontinued contact with me.

Your own words give you your answer. I think it'd be best if you leave her alone.

She has moved on and it's time that you move on too.

Take care. Hugs. Heather

 

[forcesunified]

Okay, I agree with that. I always want what's best for her, and some of the things I said back when I started that thread were out of frustration. She's more of a "real woman" than I could ever imagine having. I have lived up to my promise of not contacting her after that last message I sent her. I'll always love her and so I won't contact her. It's been very difficult living without her being my friend, but I guess that's just what I have to do.

 

[Heather]

That's a very mature way of dealing with the situation. You are respecting her wishes. Believe me it's not easy to deal with wanting what you want versus dealing with what actually is. Facing reality of the situation sucks....I think ALL of us on this site understand that.

Give it time. Take care. Heather

 

[forcesunified]

In fact, I would like to apologize for the things I said back then. I was really stupid and angry and dealing with an equally severe anxiety disorder called Social Anxiety Disorder. It was the first time I had ever tried to start a relationship and I felt like I had waited 23 years for nothing but a disaster that resulted in me losing my friend. I just didn't know how to deal with it. I am severely suicidal, so much so that I think about it several hours a day. I plan to start therapy for SAD and maybe there will come a day when I have a relationship for my own; I doubt it, but maybe it will happen. I just want to make clear that I didn't mean to offend people with my rants and I would never want to hurt this girl.