Relationship With Beloved Child Who Condones Abuser

[Nicolette]

Wouldn't you think that the later husbands - getting up to 22 would wonder why there were so many marriages?

 

[Gloria]

Okay, not 22 times :eek:!

LOL!!!! I joke with my friends to keep track and if I go over a certain number then "hold me back and don't let me do it". This one guy told me he would marry me only when I reached his lucky number (13) and he said I wouldn't ever get that far. I laughed and told him that I could get there in a year if I wanted to - divorce, remarry, divorce, remarry and just knock the marriages out until I got to 13. My lawyer (who handles my divorces and my real estate contracts) said I needed a rubber stamp when I sign real estate documents because it takes me five minutes to write AKA ...., AKA...., AKA..... on every single page. God!!! I get writer's cramp!!!:p

But seriously, it is a trajedy to me because I marry educated, handsome and usually famous men but they are just looking for the barbie doll wife (which I used to be very good at). Now, if a man doesn't like something about me, it's his problem not mine and I don't change. I don't think any man will marry a woman with five dogs and all my animals. But every time I say "never" it happens again so I won't jinx myself!!!!:eek:

Wouldn't you think that the later husbands - getting up to 22 would wonder why there were so many marriages?

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You would think that, wouldn't you? But terminal bachelors seem to find me even more attractive because they don't have the fear that it's permanent. All my ex-husbands used to hate it when I introduced them as my "current husband" instead just my husband. I don't know why????:rolleyes: LOL!!!

 

[The Albatross]

Had to giggle at the Barbie doll image... I myself am sort of a Skipper. :sneaky:

 

[Gloria]

Had to giggle at the Barbie doll image... I myself am sort of a Skipper. :sneaky:

I love to make people laugh at my multiple marriages. I make fun of myself all the time!

 

[Srain]

Geez, my husband didn't flinch, which was odd since he had never been married though his sisters might have. I'm guessing I would be the cousin nobody talks about "Chiquita" :cautious:.

Yeah, I'm thinking the biggest issue I had was in saying "no" and mainly in not knowing how to date in the first place, however I did finally learn the art of the "good-bye, next!". Wow, not easy when you have a pattern going and attract a certain element.

By 22, I'm assuming they must be looking to be in the record books HA!!

 

[Gloria]

By 22, I'm assuming they must be looking to be in the record books HA!!

I'm determined not be in the Guiness Book of Records! LOL!!!:p

 

[ms spock]

it can be how we allow others to treat us without realizing we are doing it or knowing how to deal with it correctly.

It is often how we allow others to treat us.

I have been trained to train people to treat me poorly.

I am working on this.

Ms. Spock, you made me tear up this morning. then I ran the emotional gauntlet of your lovely, naked posts and it finished me off. :)

You're a big peach.

Thank you Anni

My Dear and Cherished Friend Brat (I wish I could use your real name because I don't like calling you Brat).

Me neither...

Much love,
Gloria (and I'm quoting again so I hope I did it correctly!!!)

The quoting looks good here on the library computer Gloria.

So what are the names of your chickens and dogs?

I am glad you are getting/have gotten through your anger stuff. Well done.
I have a long way to go before I get there.

 

[Gloria]

I guess the flood gates opened. My youngest son has not used abusive body language or spoken or treated me like he has been doing his entire life. FINALLY, realized what he was doing because he really is a great person but just wasn't aware of what he had picked up from paternal family. I was very kind during therapy and told him that it was very important to get closure and talk to his father about how much he hurt my son (and he continues to do it by not inviting him to family occasions and his verbal abuse).

But I got angry at my oldest son last night - just for a minute. I am just going to focus on 12 chicks that are going to hatch in a few days, completely redecorating the kitchen (great therapy for those of you who haven't tried it) It keeps me completely focused on the task and I create a new envonment. This kitchen is going to the be the DisneyLand of kitchen. I am decorating with hummingbirds and pink gingham and painting my cabinette white as they are dark pine. Facelift!

Hugs, and yes Ms. Spock, we train people how to treat us. I am a dog and horse trainer and people tell me all the time what their horse or dog just won't let them do. I laugh and tell them that the horse or dog has trained them well. I am using Dog Whisperer techniques because my five dogs (two pups) were getting on my nerves. Amazingly, everyone sits quietyly in a row before going out or eating or anything. Honestly, I thought one of the pups was going to have to go but she turned into an angel.

It's the same way with people. When I want to worm my horses, I have them trained so I walk out in the paddock and they come up to me and I stick the tube in their mouth and jettison the paste down their throats in less than five seconds. Do you know that most people that I know still have to get the vet to worm their horse because they can't get their horses to open their mouth to take the paste even with three people holding them. To be sure, people are much, much harder to train!!!:eek:

 

[anni]

Oh heck I've never seen a horse just tool on over and open it's mouth to have that tube stuck down there-take one person to hold the ear with one hand and chain over the nose, another to lift a foot, and the person who has to stick their thumb in there to get the mouth open and achieve lift. I'm not saying I disbelieve you but yes indeed, most people would MUCH rather call the vet. Me for instance.

 

[Gloria]

Oh heck I've never seen a horse just tool on over and open it's mouth to have that tube stuck down there-take one person to hold the ear with one hand and chain over the nose, another to lift a foot, and the person who has to stick their thumb in there to get the mouth open and achieve lift. I'm not saying I disbelieve you but yes indeed, most people would MUCH rather call the vet. Me for instance.

You stinker you! Annie! I've told you about my horses. Karma not only opens his mouth, he actually reached in because he saw the wormer on the bench, chewed the thing open and ate all the wormer. Did we ever hear of banana flavored wormer??? :rolleyes: First of all you practice with a syringe with applesauce so they don't associate the bad taste and then give them the banana wormer, no problems! LOL!!:p

 

[Gloria]

I have had articles written because before I got sick I got a total of 36 horses from the slaughter auction and they didn't have physical problems just people who think they are horse people pulling their ears, using harsh bits and spurs and blaming the horse when he bucks or refuses to jump. I have never pulled a horse's ear in my life and have spent 7 years teaching my horse Karma and even Rosie not to be head shy because of it.

I am very grateful for this forum. I have been feeling guilty about not being able to place the three horses I have because I know that one smack of the whip, one ear pulling session would make them digress to the dangerous horses that they were when I got them. I like horses better than people. People send perfectly fine horses to the slaughter auction because they are bad. One horse was sent there when she bucked when the woman who was riding her was smoking and a hot ash fell on the horse's neck and she bucked.

I have never had a horse refuse to jump or a horse that bucked. People don't realize if they don't have a perfect seat when jumping that they pull back on the horse's mouth and they have a choice - get whipped for not jumping or get excruciating pain from someone who pulls back on the bit when they don't maintain a perfect seat. I got Karma and he bucked very badly but I knew why he did it. He bucked the woman off that was selling Karma to me (for $450). If someone doesn't have a good seat, they flap their legs when cantering and their hands aren't steady so the horse knows that when asked to gallop, they will have pain. So I gave Karma loose reins and held on to his mane to show him that that is where my hands would stay and people thought it was a miracle that the horse behaved for me.

I had a hard childhood. My family sent me to the farms of relatives in North Dakota to work 12 hour days on the farm when I was only eight. But the good thing is that it was near the Indian reservation so I learned horse whisperer techniques that shock my veterinarians.

Well, at any rate, I now know why I keep three horses and love them all the more. I won't give or sell them to anyone. Only a few people really know horses like I do and I love it because we are like one being.

 

[ms spock]

You might enjoy a book called "Don't Shoot the Dog!" which is about the animal training and husbandry that you already know and do so well.