Do People Annoy You?

[Anna]

I am finding lately, I am becoming more sensitive being around certain people. It really annoys me when people moan about silly little things, or put other people down because they have low self confidence. It seems they create problems where there are none. Why do they moan all the time? do they not realise how lucky they are or what they have? It frustrates me. It has come to the point where I dread family gatherings or going out with certain people because all they do is moan all the time.

Does anyone else feel like this?

I prefer to be alone nowadays because people just annoy the hell out of me with their pointless egocentric moaning.

 

[wife of]

A big emphatic yes.

 

[Lionheart]

Anna,

In the book, "Games People Play" they describe a "game" that people play called "ain't it awful". My family plays this game quite often. If one person has something tragic to tell, the next person is obligated to agree and to tell a story that is even more tragic etc. It is the same with complaining...it never seems to end. grrr :mad: (I was reminded of this when you spoke of people moaning and not realizing the good things they have).

Fact is, some people are miserable human beings and they don't mind making you miserable right along with them and they will, if you let them. Thing is, not everyone is this way and it seems to me that you deserve to be involved with a higher caliber of company.

 

[Dee Morris]

Great big YES from me as well. The "poor me" people sometimes are a trigger for me. My ex-husband is a perfect example of that. He would always go on about how horrible his life was. His family was SO poor. Wore mostly hand-me-downs, never took vacations blah blah blah. So I often would respond with "wow, you had it so rough. You had two parents who worked every day. you lived in one house your entire life. You always had food. Might have been beans & rice, but you had food. You poor, deprived soul." This sometimes shut him up because he knew that I had none of those things most of my childhood. Other times he was too caught up in his own self pity to realize how much of an ass he was being. One of the reasons he is an ex.

 

[kimba]

Absolutely! Agree with all of the above.

 

[Sammy]

All the time.

 

[GunnyMark]

Incompetent people annoy me. People that treat others poorly annoy me. And the most bothersome is people who mentally and emotionally abuse others.

 

[Srain]

Fact is, some people are miserable human beings and they don't mind making you miserable right along with them and they will, if you let them.

Oh yeah! Lionheart, you nailed it for me. I don't understand this and letting them be who they are while snorting, testing space, hovering, and just pushing boundaries is the hardest thing for me. I just want to smack them on the nose and tell them "NO!", I mean, stay out of my space, is that so hard to understand??? Apparently for some people it is and those are the people that "annoy" me cross-eyed.

 

[ronnalee]

Being negative and speaking in the negative only makes more negative stuff. I have lived with negativity for several years now and have learned this is an addictive trait for my sufferer. So I have learned to manage this with boundaries and physically distancing myself.

I like Lionheart777's affirmations on another thread and have some of my own that I use.

Negativity can be some bad nasty energy. I prefer positive energy! So I counteract the negative by thinking happy (true) thoughts and deep breathing.

Dr. Mehmet Oz spoke recently on a television program about taking 10 deep breaths upon rising. I take them before I get out of bed! :D

 

[revelry]

In the book, "Games People Play" they describe a "game" that people play called "ain't it awful". My family plays this game quite often. If one person has something tragic to tell, the next person is obligated to agree and to tell a story that is even more tragic etc.

Around my parts, we call it 'one-up-ing'. If I broke my leg, someone broke theirs in 9 places. I see it and hear it quite often. And especially with complaining.

I was listening to a motivational speaker one time that said that if everyone wrote down their problems on a piece of paper and threw them in a hat for others to pick out, that people would respond by fighting, screaming, clawing, and scratching, to get their problem back. Basically because someone out there has it worse. Which is true, but I have to be honest, when someone complains to me because their teenager wont clean their room, or their hairdresser was late. I really, REALLY want to repond with... "I WISH that was the biggest problem of my day"....lol

Gosh, if that was all I had to B*tch about..... (sorry, they haven't invented a font for sarcasm yet..lol)

 

[Lionheart]

This reminds me of a story...

... when the Hadsidic Pilgrims vied for those among them who had endured the most suffering, who was most entitled to complain, the priest told them the story of the sorrow tree.

"On the day of judgement, each person will be allowed to hang one's unhappiness on a branch of the great tree of sorrows. After all have found a limb from which their miseries may dangle, they may all walk slowly around the tree and choose a different set of sorrows., But in the end, each one freely chooses to reclaim their own personal set of sorrows rather than those of another and each person leaves the sorrow tree a little wiser than before.

This would be the ideal, but I think I could find someone whose main troubles are a bad hair day and take their set of circumstance in trade for my own. I bet they would feel a bit ripped off, don't you? ;) I really do wish that the only problem I had was like the trivial stuff that a lot of others complain about. I will tell them where to get off if they get too near me. hahaha

 

[Belle]

Yes those people annoy me too, just like the people who claim that they are only being a friend when they tell you your clothes look bad when there is no opportunity to go home and change!

Some people like to moan because their husband didn't get them a diamond ring for their birthday or other such nonsense. Just shows that some people are never happy, even if their life is one big party.