Looking For Someone Who Can Relate To Childhood Abuse And Sexual Abuse

[Gina C.]

Just wanting to know if anyone on here can relate and have tips or advice on dealing with this. Thank you

 

[Loveneverfails]

Just want you to know you are not alone, so many of us here are able to relate. The only advice I can immediately think of is what one of the wonderful moderators said to me(Angel2Write), she said to be gentle with myself. I think sometimes we are so focused on coping we forget to nurture ourselves the same way we would a child, because in many ways our hearts are just as raw and vulnerable. In my experience, doing this when I feel tired, upset or just defeated, it really allows me time to regroup.

 

[Gina C.]

Thank you for the advice :)

 

[Loveneverfails]

Glad I had some, even if it was recycled :laugh:!

 

[Gina C.]

Thats ok :) its better than no advice lol

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Just wanting to know if anyone on here can relate and have tips or advice on dealing with this. Thank you

Hi, it is alot to have to face and deal with. I am sorry you are going through this experiece. You did'nt get this way overnight and you won't heal overnight . All of these experiences have shaped you. YOu survived it. Now you have to deal with the aftermath. YOu did'nt sayif you were in treatment. You did'nt give alot of specifics.

I would suggest you go slow and dose yourself on these issues. I would be really gentle on yourself. I would hope you can journal about how you feel about what happened.

It isn't for sissies. You are strong in that you survived it. But you learned survival skills that once heloed you to survive it, now they are probably working against you. You probably have symptoms of ptsd;

You can experience many different types of symptoms. You will need alot of help and support. I hope you find it. I hope you will be able to share more of your story in a place that is safe and trustworthy. Lots of people here will understand and relate and identify. Be careful who you share your pain with, not everyone is safe or trustworthy. Please take what you like and what works for you and leave the rest.(((HUGS)))

 

[Gina C.]

I'm now 22 &1/2 years old, at the time I was 11 years old. My step dad raped me and molested me for 3 years. I tried several times to tell my alcoholic mother but she always came up with excuses. After finding out what he did to my friend we went to the school counselor. We later found out he did it to 5 other girls. I was also abused severely my whole life by my mom, dad, step dad and emotionally by classmates and ex spouse. I've also been dealing with bulimia and anorexia since I was 12 I was immediately diagnosed with PTSD after several failed attempts at suicide.

Now I battle with severe depression and it almost feels like a roller coaster. I am not currently in treatment, because of counseling I had in foster care I do not trust counselors. I use to keep a journal but I have a kid so its just hard to do now unfortunately. I'm just mostly needing help with advice and tips now because I'm in a serious relationship and it affects it at times because of things I cant do like a normal person and because at times I feel completely fine and at other times I'm so depressed I dont even want to be touched and I have no idea how to help my fiance understand because he is a wonderful man and is nothing like my past relationships. My whole life I've dealt with emotional, mental and physical abuse and I've had to deal with it until this past October when I moved in with my fiance so its just a huge change for me and very different and at times I don't know how to handle it. Thank you for your support and tips

 

[depressedjenn]

Gina,
I can totally relate to what you are saying. I want to give you a (((hug)))
I was molested by my dad when i was in third grade, it went on for a long time. I do remember the smell of alcohol on his breathe and him asking me to go check to make sure that my mom was still in the living room to make sure she didn't know what he was doing to me.

I remember right before going to sleep after my dad was done with me...I looked up into the big sky full of stars and praying for GOD or someone to help me. I didn't feel right what was happening to me but he told me not to tell anyone so I didn't. I remember going to school day after day and being so tired and not being able to concentrate on my reading. My teacher had a ruler that she would paddle my hand with because I would mess up on my words and couldn't concentrate in class.

If only my teacher knew what was happening to me every night. I also remember having a mickey mouse watch and would dread when the time hit three o'clock because I had to go home for it all to start all over again. These thoughts play through my mind like a movie.... over and over and over. How do you get these thoughts out of your mind? I'm 41 years old now and I'm still dealing with these memories since third grade. I hate what my dad did to me.

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[Gina C.]

I cant, it still plays like a movie in my head as well, its really bad when i'm asleep and accidentally role over on to my back i start having vivid flashbacks of what happened and find myself waking up screaming and crying because I dont know if its real or flashbacks

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I'm glad you have a good man in your life. I would give him a chance to be supportive and helpful to you. Can you start by sharing something small and seeing how he deals with it?

You are going to be needing alot of support. You have alot to process. It is going to take some time before you start feeling better. Sometimes when we are loved it becomes safe enouth for this stuff to come up. It is the time to start to deal with it.

I'm glad you have a good man and a child to love. You will make it thru all of this I am confident that you are strong enough to deal with the aftermath. Take care of you you are worth it.

 

[depressedjenn]

Yeah, it is like a movie. I get tired of watching the movie to. Somedays I am so numb I just want to sleep all day long. I'm glad I found this site today. I hope we can get better cause right now I just don't know what to do.

 

[Gina C.]

He knows everything, & yes depressedjenn I'm the same way, I'm glad I found this today too