Anyone Elses' Ptsd Due To A Sociopath?

[frozen]

Am looking for anyone that I can relate/connect with.

I think I need that validation I'm not the only one.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Hi Frozen,

My PTSD is complex, but there were several sociopaths in my family, a teacher, and an ex-bf.

You are NOT alone.

 

[OKRADLAK]

You are far from alone. :(

 

[Loveneverfails]

DEFINITELY not alone in this. One of my abusers fit the definition to the textbook 'T'. No official diagnosis, but then one must be 'caught' in order to get one of those...and sociopaths rarely do.

 

[nimkekaa]

My dad would fit that bill also but he wasn't caught either so no official diagnosis.

 

[Loner]

I think people with sociopathy and narcissistic personality disorder are both RARELY actually diagnosed, in order to be they pretty much must be caught doing something bad enough to get them sent to a mental hospital and most of the people with these two disorders are smart enough to not get caught.

I am sorry for what they put you through frozen. I think most of the general population just can't wrap their heads around the fact that people like this exist. Most people tend to want to believe these people are just confused or something but nope, some people are just born 'not right' at all, and go through life hurting others because they just aren't really human.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

This thread reminds me of this...

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/what-is-a-sociopath-personality-disorders-general.23710/[/DLMURL]

 

[Spiderallis]

I'm in no position to diagnose them, but a couple of my abusers seemed to have some type of issue along those lines. I've got that unofficial C type of ptsd, out of all the bad times those were some of the worst, but thankfully I don't think those sort of problems are very common.

 

[nimkekaa]

This thread reminds me of this...

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/what-is-a-sociopath-personality-disorders-general.23710/[/DLMURL]

After reading some of the above thread I want to say I am not qualified to diagnose my dad as a sociopath and I appologized to anyone I may have offended. I am not normally one to jump to name calling but my anger that I am feeling toward my father is quite strong right now.

All I was intending to do is let Frozen know that she is not alone in thinking that her abuser must be something really bad. I know that my father is not the average person with just a few problems. (You can read my diary to understand) Sometimes like being physically sick yourself, just having a name to put to the problem makes it easier to understand. When trying to understand why people have hurt you the way they did, it's easier to make them out to be some kind of a monster(label of sociopath) so that you can try and make sense of why this happened to you.

Anyway I don't know if this makes sense but it's what I am thinking and feeling right now.

 

[Loner]

This thread reminds me of this...

I agree with many of the things said in that thread, and I have noticed actually many 'normal' people without ptsd use psychopath or sociopath as a catch all term for all people with destructive personalities. Hell, I have been accused of being a sociopath just because I didnt do a very good job of making microfacial expressions and connecting with people, never mind that most true sociopaths are very charming and connect superficially quite easily.

However, I am absolutely qualified and confident in my diagnosis of my mother as someone with narcissistic personality disorder. For anyone with that disorder, they are incredibly simple, and although its hard for anyone to really get to know them to the point where they can see it, if anyone does REALLY get to know them, it becomes obvious what they are.

I didn't admit it to myself or label it until years later but I knew exactly what she was at about age 12, as soon as my mind had developed the logic to understand that everything she did was driven by what is basically flattery.

 

[frozen]

Thank you to all of you that replied! It definitely feels better knowing I'm not alone in my situation and the cause of my CPTSD.

As some stated, it's almost impossible to get a formal diagnosis on a sociopath because they know how to act more "normal" than the general population does. I have always said his lies are more believable than my truths.

My ex has never been officially diagnosed either, although when you have 3 or more counselors/therapist all come up with this diagnosis on their own, without a word from me, it becomes more of a reality.

When I was first told of the possibility of him being a sociopath I didn't know what one was, when I began to read through article after article on sociopaths, I was desperately trying to find the behaviors that didn't fit him, I could not grasp some of the traits they have, I didn't want the descriptions to fit him! In particular the areas where they tell you that a sociopath will never stop until you're dead or crazy.....I went into shock after about the third or fourth article/descriptions.
Every single thing they said, fit him to a T, it was as if they were describing him specifically.

I truly wish I had never found out!! I did better just thinking he was not a nice person and had abusive traits that could be easily fought.

I am now going through a pretty rough time, not wanting to fight him anymore, not wanting to fear this any longer. He uses my 14 yr old daughter which triggers me beyond words and to the point I want her to live with him so that I can somehow get free of the hold he has on my life. :(

I just don't know how to deal with it anymore, and I have no coping skills whatsoever when it comes to the stunts he pulls.

 

[Taven Carlsen]

Are we talking about people who have an "illness" towards "other people"? Yes, I developed PTSD because of people like that: My mother, the cops who arrested and harassed any boys they wanted to, the judge who had been running the operation to throw boys in jail for years.