I Want To Be Normal!

[Ifek]

Vent vent vent!!!

I just want to be NORMAL and I want all those NORMAL people out there to STFU when they tell me that normal doesn't exist! To me, normal is not having a d@mn disorder which isolates you, alienates you, and leaves you essentially all alone. The essence of humanity is in our relations to one another, the bonds we form, the love we share. But I don't have that and it pisses me the eff off!!!

I can't help but think I was a total sh!t in my last life and this is now my punishment.

Argh.

 

[Pelodeg]

I get really annoyed when people tell me 'normal' doesn't exist and no-one is normal. I think normal is not having had severe trauma's resulting in PTSD and not having all the pain, suffering and challenges that causes on a day to day basis.

It really upsets me as well that having mental health disorders does cause isolation and alienation. It sucks!

 

[Icuv]

I feel very similar. I hate it that I never feel like I measure up to the others who have no issue with work drama, don't focus on negative feedback and don't have problems smiling and meeting the eyes of strangers without feeling completely out of place and defunct. I hate it that I can't have a relationship without being anxious. I hate it that I look at my children and wonder if I'm going to screw them up as badly as my parents did me. Normal to me, is not having those issues and I KNOW plenty of people don't struggle with this.

 

[Zemav]

I think those people do not consider you 'not normal'. If you said you didn't want to have PTSD and if you told them a bit about what having PTSD really makes you struggle with and feel, I am quite sure that from some people you would get different responses.

 

[Aler]

I am the op and you miss the point.

 

[Sokajo]

What's an op?

 

[Evef]

Original Poster.

 

[Zotor]

Me too some days!

 

[Nizaj]

What is your definition of normal? I always thought that normal was the setting on a washing machine.

 

[Akad]

Are you asking the OP, cuz the OP already answered... So I assume you're asking everyone else?

 

[Besip]

I agree. PTSD is not normal. I want normal, too.

 

[Pogal]

Just because someone doesn't have PTSD, that doesn't mean their existence is 'normal'. They may have other issues, or health problems, or family problems, or employment problems, marriage difficulties, money worries etc, etc.

I do understand what you are saying about wanting to be 'normal', but how do we ever quantify 'normal'. Do we base 'normal' on local statistics? Global statistics?

I get really annoyed when people tell me 'normal' doesn't exist and no-one is normal.

I don't think normal exists. Pretty much everyone has issues, but I don't know how you compare, or quantify those things.

I think normal is not having had severe trauma's resulting in PTSD and not having all the pain, suffering and challenges that causes on a day to day basis.

- so does that mean that everyone who doesn't have PTSD is 'normal'? I would imagine that a diagnosed schizophrenic, would probably view everyone without schizophrenia as normal. I would imagine that the mother going through hell because their child is taking drugs, would view every other drug-free family as normal.

Perhaps starving children wish they were normal, and had food to eat. Which takes things to a global scale. What might be classed as normal to you or me is a world away from normal in a third world or developing country. Even in the Western World, we all have different idea's of normal.

Yes, PTSD sucks, no doubt about it. But so do a hell of a lot of other conditions / circumstances / illnesses / diseases / living conditions / health care / war / etc, etc.

I think it's only natural to compare ourselves with those who are closest to us ie friends, neighbours, relatives. But realistically, (and even more so on a global scale), how do you quantify 'normal'?