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My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

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I am in crises management mode, meaning I am calm and the adrenaline is flowing.

She is on her way to the police station in her city to make a report. I talked to her this morning on the phone and she did not tell me. She had the sense to get her girls and pack up some stuff and come over here.

I am besides myself. He put his hands on my baby girl and he is a big man. He gave her a black eye and a bruise on her jaw and her chest. I could kill him myself. I asked her if she had called the police and she said she did not know what to do.

I am so proud of her for going to the police. She is afraid for her life and her girls life. He has alot of guns and she was afraid of him because of that. She has apparantly been keeping so much to herself. I am so grieved in my heart that she was trying to protect me from worrying. I always told her that it was her job to be the kid and it was my job to be the parent.

I hate him. I hate that he put his hands on her. The worst sort of coward. He has not touched the girls yet.

I hope they take his guns away from him.

Meanwhile my poor husband got confused, he has dementia and he took his night pills at eight o clock. He was falling asleep and my daughter helped me to walk him to our bedroom and put him in bed.

I knew I bought that pack of cigarettes today for a reason.

I am calm. I will be stressed out later on. I do not know how long I can get away with having the girls and her here because of the owners of the park. I will hide them here.

We will begin to sort this out tommorow. I do not know what tommorow will bring. She is keeping the girls out of school tommorow. I had so hoped he was a stand up guy. She deserves so much better.

She called his dad and told him and she said she was coming over here. She showed him a picture of her eye. He said he was at a loss for words. What a jerk. I am so angry about him doing this to We will make it through this ugly situation.

I am in shock and I am stunned that he would do this. Not too long ago I was horriblizing about him because he has so many guns. I hate that he is doing this. I hate men who strike women. This is a deal breaker and I told her that. I do not know what is going to happen next.
 
I'm so sorry Gizmo, my heart just broke for you then. How sad for you to have that happen to your daughter.

My mum went through this. Just tell her that my mum went back, and she ended up in hospital for a month and he went to jail. It is the going back that should also not happen. She should get out now. He should get help. And she should never ever return. I fear for her safety and yours.

I'm so sorry.

You are very calm and strong and you will be able to cope with this.
 
Not too long ago I was horriblizing about him because he has so many guns. I hate that he is doing this. I hate men who strike women. This is a deal breaker and I told her that. I do not know what is going to happen next.

If you are worried about guns gizmo, and I read awhile ago about your worry about him and the guns, then a women's refuge for your daughter and the girls would be the best place - safest with a fast response time.

She is brave to go to the police. She really is gizmo.
 
Gizmo,

Well done for your daughter going to the police. Victims Services should be of help too if the DA's office has them still. They can help her find support with Domestic Violence Shelters, help her find ways to get him in court for emergency financial help, and some shelters can help her find an attorney that works pro bono right away. Here is a good link to start with- http://www.thehotline.org

They have a number and she can call to help her sort through all this. It is important she has as much support as possible to help her transition through all these changes. It will be alot of hard work. I am suggesting alot of these things because there is no guarantee that he will give up all his guns, so it is important to find as much support as possible to be able to take the steps to keep safe.

Another thought, because you are her family and you are taking care of someone who is vulnerable, your hubby, you might want to consider to take out a OOP (Order Of Protection) too on him. I know this is alot to take in but I can't stress enough to have her find as much support right now as possible. Sending warm thoughts for all of you.
 
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