My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

[piratelady]

I am sorry to hear that this happened to her. Thankfully, she left and has gone to the police. There is some great advice here. As Deb said, keep texts, phone messages, etc as they will help give more merit to the protective order. Take care. :hug:

 

[saffy]

What a completer coward this nonperson is.

I can't call him a man, he is far from that. I can't call him a person, he is not one of those either.

Thank god your daughter and grandchildren are away from his clutches.

Hopefully he will get his just deserves and end up in jail as someone's bitch ;)

Stay strong (((Gizmo)))

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you all so very much for your healing support. The girls are up and watching Sponge Bob. One ate breakfast and the other has not eaten yet. I will have to go food shopping soon.

The police took a picture of the text he sent her. We all slept last night peacefully with no problems. I was so afraid to go to sleep, but I did and I do feel better now.

I had another cigarette and it helped to calm me down. I feel alot better. We will get through this somehow. I was feeling overwhelmned when I woke up. My husband is doing good today. He always does better when the girls are here.

I so appreciate your support. It means so much to me. I am so grateful for all of you.

We will get through this and we will be ok. It is hard to function, I feel so tired. I just keep praying for calmness and strength. Her eye is looking worse than it did at first. She is so self conscious about it.

I have never had this happen to me from my husband and I do not know how it feels or what I should say to help her to feel better. She has one very good friend who has been trying to get her to leave him for the emotional and verbal abuse. I am so glad she has that kind of support.

If any of you have been through this please tell me what you would have liked to hear and experience. i am afraid of saying or doing the wrong things.

I have so much I have to do today. I hope I have the strength and stamina to do them. I am afraid to leave my husband home alone now. We will have to do what must be done.

The last time he went off emotionally and verbally he moved out and left her alone. Now it is escallated.

 

[safenow]

If any of you have been through this please tell me what you would have liked to hear and experience.

You are already doing it, gizmo. My family told me, "It's not like you've never been hit before. Get over it."

You gave her a place to go that was safe. You love her and care about her. I'm sure you are giving her hugs from time to time, and letting her know you are there to talk to if she needs to talk.

 

[winterose]

I needed someone to remind me I didn't deserve what happened when self doubt crept in. Or when the police asked difficult questions. Or when I was trying to make a change and I failed and fell flat on my face. That I was worth being alive, happy and unhurt.

I have to agree with safenow too, your behavior of being there is doing alot. She is following through with the cops on any contact she get's. You are keeping her children safe. Your husband is distracted with the girls so that gives you a break too. Take time for all of you to regenerate too. I am so awed by all of you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Great news! The police went to their house at one o clock in the morning and they arrested him and got all of the guns out of the safe but I do not know if they got all the guns.

She wants me to be blunt with her. She said that she appreciates honesty. So she said I have not said anything to hurt her feelings.

I do not know how long they will keep him in jail. It depends on whether or not he can raise bail.

I hope he cannot raise bail. She has to go to the police station at ten o clock tonight to pick up the police report.

I hope his dad does not help him to get out of jail. I hope they keep him for awhile. We have alot to do today and I have not figured out how I am going to do it yet. She has a rental car she has to turn it in and pick up her car.

We will be ok. My husband is done brushing his teeth. He will take a shower next. The older girl had breakfast and my daughter is having her coffee. I hope we can accomplish everything today.

 

[saffy]

She is so self conscious about it.

It is such a shame that she should feel embarrassed or self conscious over the actions of a non human. It is a good reminder to her that this is not love because love would never hurt in that way.

I am glad you are all being so strong. Stick together that is your strength. He has no one and nothing now and can crawl back under his rock.

I hope they keep him in also. At least you have told his father, who might bail him, but might just leave him there in disgust. You might want to say to him if he does bail him he better make sure he knows where he is every minute of the day too. ;)

We are all here for you.

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[amethist]

So sorry to read all of this gizmo.

At least she came to you with the children. Your a good mum and she feels safe knowing you are there for her.

I hope they lock him up and throw away the key.

:hug: To all of you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My husband is having a bad day with his dementia. He is very confused because of what is going on and he is agitated. He was focusing on the finances which made it hard on me.

My daughter had to go and get her car by herself. I decided to I could not leave my husband alone today.

Her husbands dad texted her and said that her husband was no good to her in jail so I think he will bail him out.

So that is that. I hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Wow, this is so intense. I wrote out a check to pay for her to pick her car up. I gave her twenty dollars to get gas. I hope it all works out. I hope they take the check.

I will feel better when she gets back here.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My husband is doing alittle better now. He is snoozing in his chair and the dog is on his lap sleeping. The girls are watching a movie. My daughter has not gotten back yet. I wish I could cry. I would feel so much better if I could cry. I am trying to remain calm for everyone. We have the doors locked. I hate this so much. I hate drama and this has filled my cup up to overflowing. Thank you all for your support. I keep reading what you have written and it warms me up on the inside.

 

[p-no]

Dear gizmo, I'm sorry you all have to go through this. What an incredibly thing to do...
If you feel you could cry, just cry. You are affected, too. It's good to have a release for all the emotions that have come up. Maybe, sometime, you and your daughter can do some crying together.

Thinking of you.

 

[amethist]

her husband was no good to her in jail

I have to say he is no good to her at all.

His dad needs to see him for what he is, or is this a case of "Like father like son".

I hope she stays away from him and can live a life safe in the knowledge that she is loved by those who matter.