General Same Old Thing - Hubby Going Backward Again

[Kathy]

poor Evie I reckon if I had a pig out on Maccas I would be sick to!

Yes poor Evie is right, we gave her a talking about it to when she came home, as she is supposed to be extremely careful what she eats. However I couldn't help feeling badly for her as she was ill all day yesterday and is still feeling poorly this morning! We are starting to wonder if she perhaps contracted food poisoning, though Colin ate the rubbish along with her and has had no ill effects whatsoever.

That is most disappointing that he is still not sticking to his diet. Sugary cakes cannot be good for diabetes! Could he not be eating fruit instead? That is also sweet, if he is craving sweets. In any event I suppose there is only so much you can do Jen. I understand your frustrations. Have you tried having healthy snacks around as Veiled suggested?

 

[Jen]

Hope she is feeling better today Kathy! I have had fruit and healthy snacks available for him.
He is eating a bit of fruit but then sat down last night with the biggest bowl of ice cream and cake!
I am not saying anything to him he is a big boy!
All I can do if watch and see what happens if there will be consequences for his refusal to look after himself?

 

[Kathy]

Well Jen, if you are providing him with healthy choices then there really is nothing more you can do I suppose. It's up to him now, as you say he is a big boy!

Unfortunately Evie is still ill from the McDonald's... 2 and a half days now! I am getting a bit concerned.

 

[jods]

Lucky you aren't down here at the moment Jen, it's cold & windy. Not good golf conditions at all. I'm thinking that we are back to winter but at least the rain has been good.

Sorry to hear Evie is still feeling sick. Is it due to the all the processed crap in Mcdonalds that has flaired something up in her system? Just goes to show that good old home style cooking is best!

 

[Jen]

Thats no good Kathy is she vomitimg? If so it may be food poisoning?
If hubby eats to much junk he gets the irritable bowel that comes on severe.
He dragged himself out of bed at 1pm and said he had a headache he tested his sugar it was up ( HELLO!!)
I hear you guys are getting a bit of weather Jods!
My son just sent me a text he is driving back to Adelaide from Newcastle gee I hope he is careful he was about 7 hours out of Adelaide.

 

[Kathy]

I do believe it may be food poisoning. She was vomiting and has had diarrhea and heartburn as well. She seems a bit better this morning, however I am tempted to ring the restaurant and notify them. Not to complain however simply to inform them in case others were also ill after eating there that particular evening!

He dragged himself out of bed at 1pm and said he had a headache he tested his sugar it was up ( HELLO!!)

Oh my that would almost be funny Jen if it weren't for his diabetes. Honestly! :rolleyes:

 

[Jen]

Probably wouldnt hurt to let them know Kathy just in case there was a problem with their preparation of food.
Knowing Maccas they will bend over backwards and offer free meals for a life time:wink:
Yeh he seems to be selfdestructing with his diet! I eat very healthy so its not as if we are in the same pattern?

 

[Jen]

I after some opinions on which way to go here?
He is not getting out of bed till late I run the business and am ok with that.
He does the one day a week thats all he could handle!
The thing is that one day he works I am constantly waking him up to get out of bed and I can feel myself getting wound up every Tuesday morning wondering if he will get in to work if he doesnt I can go in but we agreed it is my one day of to socialise with the girls from golf.
I am tempted to hire someone to do Tuesdays next year to save me worrying all the time will he or wont he?
I have mentioned it to him a couple of times he said we cant afford it but we can!
I wonder if I do this will he go further downhill then he wont have to get out of bed at all on that day but on the other hand it will save me some stress?
Thanks Jen

 

[Kathy]

Jen, is your business open every single day? If so, could you afford to have it closed one day a week? Perhaps not Tuesday necessarily however the least busiest day of the week? Not saying closure would be the general rule on that day, however if you mentally prepared yourself for the possibility of the business being closed on your husband's day to work, perhaps you could go socialize without feeling any worry or guilt?

Really Jen, one day a week is not much for him to be working, unless he is very ill. If he does not wish to hire someone, then he must go in, as that is your agreement. Yes he is ill, however you also have needs, and you deserve a day off without worry. I would not enable him by making certain he is up, and so on. You are not his mother. Place the responsibility squarely on him, and go enjoy yourself. If as a result the business is open late or not open at at all, it is his resposibility entirely as per your agreement. Let him suffer the consequences if he loses money on that day. If he needs to change the rules of the agreement in future that is acceptable, however he must compromise (by agreeing to hire someone, for example) and not expect you to be running the business constantly without any break.

 

[Jen]

Thanks Kathy no we need to be open for 5 days a week as we provide a service. I go over to golf at 7.30 am and put the phone in his room and wake him up knowing he will not get out of bed until at least 8am.
He asks me to ring him in 20 mins to make sure he is up he just has so much troublewaking up!
As you said I am not his mother are you sure about that:rofl:

 

[Kathy]

I am not his mother are you sure about that:rofl:

Sometimes it is difficult to tell, isn't it? :rolleyes: I have the same problem at times, though thankfully not often.

Perhaps you should make sure he is completely out of bed before you leave for golf? Yes that would be earlier for him, however could he not go to bed earlier on Monday nights? That way when you leave, you know he is awake and may leave the house without worry. Alternately you could invest in a very loud alarm clock. Either way I do think he should have more responsibility for getting himself out of bed, especially as it is only one day a week and he refuses to hire someone.

The other thing is, could you not hire someone for half a day, as in mornings only? I know he thinks you can't afford it, however a half day would only be half the money? And as you say you can afford it, anyhow!

Merely throwing out different ideas for you Jen, which may or may not work. I do feel though you deserve one day a week to yourself without worry and your husband should be able to grasp this. If not, he is being quite selfish in my opinion.

 

[Jen]

Thanks for those ideas Kathy he still says he is ok to work that one day after talking to him about it.
The loudest alarm clock may wake him but doesnt get his butt out of bed.
He has tried going to bed early it doesnt seem to help.
Selfish you say I dont think a person is selfish if he only has to work one day a week and when the wife comes home from work he is sitting in front of the tele the wife cooks tea the wife gets the clothes of the line the wife feeds the animals!!
Sorry had to get that out oh thats right he has an illness:think:
Life goes on and I cant see it changing much at all for me for a while especially with owning a business. But I enjoy the business and can cope but a little help would be nice?