Is A 12 Year Old Capable Of Committing Rape

[.Bubbles.]

I think the answer is in his threats. He knew he was doing wrong. Yes, I believe a 12 year old is capable of rape. At that age they most probably were abused and copying it. But the answer is still the same. I can understand why it'd be difficult to accept though.

 

[wicked child]

When I was 7 I was raped by an 11 year old. Yes, a child can rape. When I was under 15 I had sexual contact with probably 5 people who can say with full justification that I raped them. At least one of them did publicly talk about me raping him. I agree that it was rape and I am terribly sorry. I didn't know better. That doesn't make it ok. I still hurt him a lot.

This is the sort of person that I was referring to. I cannot blame him for what he did. I know that some will disagree with me, and thats OK too. He was 7 when his head was torn inside out.

 

[Padfoot]

And so the cycle of abuse continues with more victims :(

 

[rightkindofme]

This is the sort of person that I was referring to. I cannot blame him for what he did. I know that some will disagree with me, and thats OK too. He was 7 when his head was torn inside out.

My father started raping me when I was a toddler. I didn't know that what I was doing was wrong. But I still hurt people. I have contacted the folks I could find to apologize. They understood and forgave me but I think it was actually good for them to have the person who hurt them say, "I raped you and I am sorry. I didn't know what rape was." I was thanked at least.

I struggle with the fact that people want to say that rape is all about power. I had no idea I had power when I was coercing young boys to let me perform fellacio on them. But I did hurt them. I did damage them emotionally. I can't help but wonder how many rapists truly don't understand what they are doing. I think the malicious serial rapists are rare.

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

I agree with what others have said that a 12 year old can rape. When I was 7 I was raped by an 11 year old boy. But then he was totally inappropriate with me long before that night as he groomed me for a long time. Our mothers are best friends since they were in kindergarten. I kept that secret until I was 21. He wasn't the first. He wasn't the last. And it completely confused me because it was obvious to everyone that I had a crush on him. But I NEVER consented to any kind of sex. It was further complicated by more experiences with him. And by our families spending time together on a regular basis for years as I grew up. He knew what he did was wrong. About 10 years later he even discussed it with me while I was trying to hide from him in a closet. No part of anything he did to me across all of those years was even a little bit ok. And he knew it. He's always known it.

 

[Padfoot]

My father started raping me when I was a toddler. I didn't know that what I was doing was wrong. But I still hurt people. I have contacted the folks I could find to apologize.

This, right here, is why I still have compassion for the person who attacked me. Thank you so much for sharing, it takes a lot of courage to admit to being raped but it takes a lot more to admit to what you did and apologise for it.

 

[wicked child]

I can't help but wonder how many rapists truly don't understand what they are doing.

Possibly all rapists were abused as children. That's the first thing.

Now consider how we learn as children. We learn by example and exploration. But mostly as children by example.

Now, all animals are related. We share 95% of our DNA with chimps. We share 60% of our DNA with bacteria. This is powerful evidence, that all animals are related. So it follows that mostly animals learn in similar ways.

Now consider birds. When are clutch of eggs is about to hatch, the little birds are "pre progammed" to waddle after an big thing that moves. Try it for self. Animate a blue/pink/red balloon in front of them , having removed the mother from sight. They will all follow the balloon. They cannot unlearn this.

It seems that a window of opportunity opened and then was shut.

Humans do this to. Wild children recovered from the jungle cannot be taught to read properly, nor to speak properly.Their window of opportunity was passed, and it is no longer possible.

Are you following me ?

Abused children may have learned that this is normal behaviour. It might be very difficult to correct, and this is indeed what we find.

This seems to be true for those children who were seriously abused. Those children abused less harmfully seems able to see that their behavior has the potential to cause distress to all around, and to learn from this, and never again, go on to re offend.

This is just How I have figured it out. There is probably a whole bunch of maggots in my apple.

 

[rightkindofme]

I'm a big fan of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and hypnosis. That means I HOPE that behaviors can be changed. Otherwise it seems pretty true to me, wicked child.