No Offense And I Apologize, But My Sister Is A Raging Bitch.

[ashdawn8287]

She is physically abusive to her boyfriend and before he came alone (13 years ago) I was her target for her defective personality. We are completely opposite and she has been swallowed, chewed up, and spit out by evil.

She texts and calls me when she is drunk so she can target me and try to bring me down. Usually I'm like, "OKAY HEATHER I AM A BITCH YOU WIN I LOVE YOU."

Tonight was different her text message, "You are a crazy psycho bitch that needs a reality check you ended up in the hospital twice in 3 days so yes that makes you crazy not me."

It was random and out of no where. I had not texted her or anything. At first she was nice then it turned into that.

I said, "Don't apologize to me for being a bitch like you always do because I won't accept it anymore like I always do because I am too forgiving with you, I don't accept it and I don't want you in my life anymore all you do is try to make me feel bad about myself. I don't have time or room in my life for you, you are a bad sister to me and always have never made me feel anything but bad things. I frankly don't like you as a person."

I don't deserve that and I am not putting up with it.

VENT!

 

[nomedic1]

Sorry you have to put up with that, family are the worst sometime as they know our weaknesses .

 

[ashdawn8287]

She's stressed with school and work so she gets drunk and targets me. Her boyfriend probably left and onyx god knows where and what my niece is doing on a school night at 2am.probably listening to her mom.yell and be drunk.

 

[ashdawn8287]

All I want is a nice sister. Thank god I have @Flyaway now.

 

[nomedic1]

It's just not fair is it.

 

[ashdawn8287]

Nope but F me right? People like that can have kids yet I struggle with it and seenghow that plays out with my niece freaking frustrates me.

 

[Padfoot]

I have a Sister-In-Law who is nasty like that. Lucky she's just an In-Law so I can say a big F U to her and not have to deal with her. It's difficult isnt it when people are so utterly disrespectful and use our weaker moments against us when the same people are meant to family who support us. I'm sorry you have a family member who feels it's ok to treat you in that way. Nobody deserves it.

 

[Flyaway]

Heeeey soul sister!!! :happy: YES! You're right she's a raging bitch!!!

If she was as strong and as dedicated to recovery as you are she would take responsibility for the effects of abuse and she would spend a hell of a lot more time in hospital than you ever have!!! Instead she blames everyone else for her behaviour and lashes out whenever she can.

I'm SO PROUD of you for being the kind of person who takes responsibility for healing and goes to the ER when you need to!!!

It's heartbreaking that your niece has to put up with her behaviour... I know that your awesome example is what will help her pull through and live her life differently to her mum!!! ...I do hope your sister opens her eyes to how lucky she it to have you for a sister!!! I hope she gets the help she desperately needs, and eventually realises that she can heal her life the way you are healing yours.

Keep being your AWESOME self Ash!!! :happy:

 

[Philippa]

It's always good to remember that she is speaking to herself whenever she sends you those awful messages. Inside SHE is the one who knows and feels like a crazy psycho bitch! She KNOWS it, but it's too hard for her to admit to her self, so she projects it onto you. This has nothing at all to do with you. It's all her own stuff, so don't take it on.

She has no healthy way of feeling good unless she is bringing you down...that's terribly sad for her. She should be pitied.

 

[ashdawn8287]

Thank you all so much for the responses. It was nice waking up to that this morning after last night.

I know she projects, I know she has her own issues, but it is very hard to deal with when I am working out mine. I have decided to cut contact with her now and see my niece whenever my mom has her. It is not okay to be treated like that at all.

I am very proud of my healing and too proud to get down on myself because of her own self issues. I just really wish she was nice.

 

[ashdawn8287]

I asked her why she was targeting me? She said wtf are you talking about this is what I mean you are crazy. That is how deep the denial is.

I am just over accepting her apologizes from her and letting her do whatever the heck she wants, like my parents (god bless them for dealing with her). My parents have made it acceptable ever since she lost her court case with her abuse. THey think oh we feel so bad for her so she can do whatever and it is okay because what she has been threw. It's like no wake up parents it is NOT okay to be treated like that.

I told my mom I was thinking about calling the department of social services (they have been involved with my sister a bunch of times). My niece does not deserve to be around that crap. And this is just a very very small amount of how she is and what kind of environment my niece lives in. ON A FREAKING SCHOOL NIGHT!!!! Makes me so anger how she is being raised

My sister loves her and is kind to her when I am around but it worries me with the drinking, rage, and irresponsibility and not putting my nieces needs first.

 

[kahlan]

I'm so sorry hon! Having lived with a pill popping mom with angry transferrance issues I can see how you would feel about your neice in that situation! You don't deserve to be the butt of her outbursts and neither does anyone else :s. You seem to be a strong and capable woman who is dealing very well with qhat lifes thrown at you, despite the current hardships, she could learn a lot from you if she wasn't being so wrapped up in her own crap lashing out like she is.