A Week Without My Seeing My Therapist

[Reds]

This is the first week I have went through without seeing my therapist, I was worried thinking I will fall apart but I am still ok. It wasn't Ana easy week, I fought with my partner for no reason. I have done really stupid things but it is ok. Things will get better. Now I am thinking I could learn to take care of myself and maybe I should give myself another week to try again. Maybe next week I will do better, I want to learn to love and care for myself without her helping me and a part of me says I can. Another part of me says aim not ready.
But I think I should try again next week to go through the week without seeing her

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

It is good to be able to depend on your therapist less but also IMO to have a stead schedule with them. During the winter is my bad time of year so I see my therapist every week, usually every Thursday at 1pm. When I am doing better in the summer months then I see him less, every two weeks. It seems to really help me so have a schedule that I can anticipate.

I congratulate you on being more independent from your therapist. Depending on them to much is never a good thing, but also keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist.

 

[Reds]

Thank you Ayesha, I know there's nothing wrong in seeing a therapist. I just sometimes worry about my transference and often can't imagine my life without her. So I just now feel a little proud that I went through a week without seeing her, even though I emailed her twice this week. I do miss her tons :cry: And I think of her every minute. I just want to feel like I can live without her, I hope that makes some sort of sense

 

[Reds]

Maybe it is my always wanting to be in control issues

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I think that if you can't imagine your life without her, then you have a problem. Yes, it's important to build trust in your therapist, but at the end of the day it is still a professional relationship that can end at any time for any reason so it is important not to get overly attached. Just my two cents.

 

[Britt.f7]

The first time I went a week without seeing my therapist, due to a scheduling conflict, I thought I wasn't going to make it. I was scared. But everything turned out okay. The world didn't collapse. Now I am going to go without her for two months during the worse time of the year for me because she will be on maternity leave. She is going to give me her email, but I don't see myself contacting her that way. Who knows?

I think it is good that you realized you can make it without your therapist. However, I don't think you have to completely stop in order to have that feeling. Sometimes it is good to just touch base. Maybe you can go every other week. Or every two weeks. I see myself stopping therapy eventually. Just not sure when right now.