Biggest Mistake Tdoc Ever Made

[Abstract]

T had done no grounding work with Reds

She actually did if you read it again jks. She just did not know it was called grounding.

 

[just keep swimming]

Good stuff Abstract well done, i'm human too.
I'm gonna speak to my therapist in next session and see if they are up for me calling my father, Perhaps I have wasted thousands of pounds and could of given him a quick bell, your all off your nuts. I do think so very brave but nothing more than power struggles and when you win them you always lose them..How about I go knock on my Dads door and ask him why he used to rape me.
Crazy. I did far better, read my intro thread if you want to see how its better to go about things with our abusers.

 

[Abstract]

No need to be sarcastic just keep. I was merely pointing it out as others may get the wrong impression if they did not read the thread.

 

[The Albatross]

I've clearly upset you albatross, sorry about that. Are you more annoyed that you could be wrong? its not about being right you know...

Not upset at all, or annoyed at the possibility of being "wrong". My personal experience is my personal experience and my viewpoint comes from various therapy and recovery that I've received.

As for the discussion being over, I was at work and you asked me a few questions in both post #11 and post #15. I answered.

It does appear though that you are not doing well and I hope you recover soon. You seem to have been adversely affected by the topic since in the post above you say, "How about I go knock on my Dads door and ask him why he used to rape me.
Crazy. I did far better, read my intro thread if you want to see how its better to go about things with our abusers."

Obviously this topic struck a major chord with you.

What works for some, won't for others, there is no one size fits all in recovery from PTSD.

 

[Rumors]

How about I go knock on my Dads door and ask him why he used to rape me. Crazy.

Really? I am glad you did better, however folks here are still trying to achieve your apparent awesomeness so just keep swimming. Comparing yourself, in that manner, is inappropriate to the OP. If you read the original post, the OP asked her T for help confronting her abuser. There is no parallel in your comparison of knocking randomly on your dads door. Just my humble opinion, but maybe I am just treading water so what do I know? I read your introduction and I think you hold a higher opinion of "doing better" than I.

 

[Seasounds]

Oh Reds, sorry about your experience in therapy, including your therapist's move.

Regarding your phone call, most therapists I know wouldn't participte to help their client call their abuser, for a variety of reasons: emotionally risky for clients, and legally risky for therapists. It sounds like your therapist might 'follow your lead' too much.

At one point, I thought confronting my abuser's would help me heal from abuse, quicker than if I didn't confront them; it is generally not true. A confronting statement doesn't compensate for the years of self-esteem building, that people require, to experience self-love. What did you hope to gain from confronting your abuser?

Your therapist had difficulty in tolerating 'her own discomfort', when you were uncomfortable. Most therapists are trained to just 'be with' clients in these moments, not give them things. For that reason, and from your association to the stuffed animal, I'm glad you threw the bear, back at her.

You can choose to talk, to not talk, to stay, or to leave. As every situation is different, you'll know what suits you. Clients are on a learning curve, so are therapists. If you ever want to leave, to become secure enough to leave, have a back-pocket plan; meet another therapist first.

I have been in similar situations with therapists, twice. In both cases, my feedback, that their actions or words triggered me, was the beginning of the end. Like you, I expressed anger. Afterwards, they became passive aggressive, and even directly hostile; those were ways to get me to leave therapy. Watch out for those behaviors.

I found a healthier and wiser therapist, that can simply be with my pain, and who doesn't always follow my lead.

Good luck!