maryiscontrary
Silver Member
I realized just how different I think from others not that I have constructed a new personality.
My brother is doing a smear campaign (yawn) because he does not like me staying with his wife's mother down here in Ecuador. Mind you, I was invited. She is an empath, and is here because her kids could not take care of her in the states. Not angry, she just moved so that she could have a better social support system and easily pay for help, if she needed it. Great boundary and self responsible decision.
Well, my brother is telling her I cut the family off. Well, he cut me off and refused to communicate to my multiple attempts for a year, so I chose not to enable abusive stonewalling manipulative behavior.
She does not understand the deep levels of the abuse dynamics that the people on the board do. Of course, she is thinking of keeping the family together.
Well, we were discussing it, and she slipped and said that it was time for me to put the trauma in the past and to call my brother and ask for forgiveness. WHAT?!!! I said hell no, that I would only talk to him under the care of professional counseling. Being a psychopath narcissist, he will never do that. And I really couldn't give a rats ass.
Well, this triggered fun fun fun flashbacks and nightmares all damned night last night. I wrote her and told her I didn't have room in my life for people who lie, who are addicts, and who have empathy failures, such as that of my family. I said they had no idea the terrifying trauma, as well as the extent, I went through, andthat minimized it, and anybody telling me to get over it was profoundly degrading and evil. Shit, my damn nervous system is damaged from this trauma, and I am fighting tooth an nail to fix this.
Well, she wrote back that she supported me, and that she only felt like she was speaking the truth, and that she didn't feel evil. I told her I didn't think she was evil, and I loved and cared for her very much.
This is my attempt to try to somewhat effectively deal with a very bad situation.
My brother is doing a smear campaign (yawn) because he does not like me staying with his wife's mother down here in Ecuador. Mind you, I was invited. She is an empath, and is here because her kids could not take care of her in the states. Not angry, she just moved so that she could have a better social support system and easily pay for help, if she needed it. Great boundary and self responsible decision.
Well, my brother is telling her I cut the family off. Well, he cut me off and refused to communicate to my multiple attempts for a year, so I chose not to enable abusive stonewalling manipulative behavior.
She does not understand the deep levels of the abuse dynamics that the people on the board do. Of course, she is thinking of keeping the family together.
Well, we were discussing it, and she slipped and said that it was time for me to put the trauma in the past and to call my brother and ask for forgiveness. WHAT?!!! I said hell no, that I would only talk to him under the care of professional counseling. Being a psychopath narcissist, he will never do that. And I really couldn't give a rats ass.
Well, this triggered fun fun fun flashbacks and nightmares all damned night last night. I wrote her and told her I didn't have room in my life for people who lie, who are addicts, and who have empathy failures, such as that of my family. I said they had no idea the terrifying trauma, as well as the extent, I went through, andthat minimized it, and anybody telling me to get over it was profoundly degrading and evil. Shit, my damn nervous system is damaged from this trauma, and I am fighting tooth an nail to fix this.
Well, she wrote back that she supported me, and that she only felt like she was speaking the truth, and that she didn't feel evil. I told her I didn't think she was evil, and I loved and cared for her very much.
This is my attempt to try to somewhat effectively deal with a very bad situation.
