I posted this in the thread about attachment and touch, not realising that was Hope4Now's thread. I think it's more appropriate here because I'm following on from Pencil's previous discussion. So I'm copying it to here instead.
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Pencil, believe it or not this is what I was getting at in your other thread when I talked about transformation in the present rather than working on the issues as they were in the past. It's also why I was reluctant to give examples of what that meant for me, because I think we're very different. I would run a mile from this sort of stuff, for example, but it sounds like something you want to run towards.
Quote from Pencil in the Attachment and Touch thread:
Only later did I read that touch (and therefore lack of touch) affects the brain in profound ways. While being held in that specific way specific things actually, actively happen to your brain - things that should have happened but never did
This is what I mean by alchemy. Something that transforms stuck issues instead of endlessly trying to work through them.
For some people, work on reparenting/parenting ourselves might actually be alchemy. It might cut through things and take them directly where they need to be.
For others, like me, work on reparenting/parenting ourselves would be a long and distressing endeavour and might never take them very far. Not to mention the side effects.
I don't mean no-one should ever talk or think through anything. I think that definitely has a place, and it has been very important to me. But that only does so much, and only so quickly.
With many things, I could talk for months in therapy working through my feelings about X and not get very far. Or I could do a collage to express X and doing that can release something and rewire a part of my brain almost overnight. Or I can do several collages over a period of time and each one can release and rewire more. The important thing is that it's effective and continuous.
My question is - what action are you now taking towards this?
