Time To Give Up?

[Mystery]

Dr George Simon is the author of two books In Sheeps Clothing and Character Disturbance. He has a website called manipulative people, find him please, that is the best advice I can give you, as well as encouragement that you deserve better and that your life will be hell if you stay with this guy. Get out now while you can my friend.

 

[wendys331]

Thanks everyone. I guess the other thing that gets me is that he is seriously going to go around telling people that I am a manipulative, compulsive liar, who sleeps with family members. To everyone else he comes off as a smart genuine person. It's a pretty big slap in the face to know that that is whats going to be going around about me.

 

[Friday]

Okay... I have so fallen into this trap.

Don't.

Take a step back and think to yourself

"More Proof that I made the right decision in leaving! Thanks! Because there is no way in hail I want to be with someone who would do this to anyone. Much less someone they're supposed to love! Bullet. Dodged."

And not fall for the trap of dignifying the argument / allow it to manipulate you back to "prove" anyone wrong. Anyone who would believe that about you you don't want in your life, anyway.

Those who matter don't mind
Those who mind don't matter

My ex is a sociopath (falling under the heading too, of "You'll never meet a sociopath you don't like"). I had to battle this guy in court. I'm x-military. I've never laid a hand on him. But dude fractures MY skull, and strangles ME... And I'm having to prove I'm the victim, here. Oh and about 72 other mudslinging nonsense. Like when Inhave my son I sleep until 3pm. 2 years of phone records, school records, work records to show that no. In fact. I do get up and take car of business typically starting between 4am & 6am. Hours and hours of work for each and every single one of his lies. Everyone lurrrrrrves my ex. This was a horrific battle, costing nearly 100k, and in the end he still got half custody (Oh. I think he really means that he wants to change). Vomit. I can't really blame the courts. I bought his shit for over a decade.

Seriously. Don't fall for this trick. Get out.

 

[scout86]

"You'll never meet a sociopath you don't like"

I like that!

It also fits MY ex. We didn't have kids, fortunately. He told a multitude of people a multitude of bizarre stories to explain the divorce. (I was "running off to join a cult"?) It had it's awkward moments, but I survived. He made noises about "stalking" etc. I moved 1000 miles away. When I drove out of the yard the last time, I left behind a place that I thought was everything I ever wanted and I left with WAY less than I started with. And it was the smartest thing I've ever done. (With the possible exception of starting therapy.) I can't begin to express the feeling of relief and freedom that came with having that situation over.

The people who mattered got what he was. The best of them told me that they'd known what he was longer than I had, but didn't know what they could do to help.

As good friend said to me, :Run little girl, run!"