Therapist Told Me To Leave Him

[Zejek]

I'm not sure she will still want to work with me when I say I'm not leaving him.

I'm not really understanding. How many sessions have you had with this therapist? On the one hand, this is "your therapist" and it might be "time to get a new therapist" and "I'm not sure she will still want to work with me".

On the other hand,

I would like to point out that this was my first session with this therapist.

How many sessions have you had with this therapist, how/why did you choose her and... generally, what's going on?

 

[Sokif]

I've only just had the one session so far. I'm not really spoilt for choice where I live - there aren't many therapists who do trauma. When I first contacted the clinic, I actually asked to see someone else, who I had picked out on the basis of her profile on the website - it said she had expertise in trauma and anxiety. They told me she was not going to be available for a number of months, and suggested the lady that I saw last week instead. So she wasn't my first choice. My primary reason for getting therapy was to learn to better manage my anxiety, but I also wanted someone who knew about PTSD so I could get some perspective about my relationship stuff as well.

On the one hand, this is "your therapist" and it might be "time to get a new therapist" and "I'm not sure she will still want to work with me".

Sorry to be confusing with that statement. When I said "I'm not sure she will still want to work with me", I meant that I feel that, if I tell her I'm not leaving my man, she might say "then I can't help you." Because she's so emphatically given me advice that I haven't taken. Does that make sense? But since I posted my that comment, I'm now of the opinion that it's not a good fit. I don't feel comfortable with her approach. I have had a lot of trouble finding a therapist I feel comfortable with, but it's so exhausting starting over again with a new person, so I had been pondering whether I should give her more of a go before moving on. I'm thinking that's a "no" now though...