Do You Love Your Pet More Than People Sometimes ?

[Sammyiam]

Hi,

As most of you know my Mum just passed away last week. I showed little emotion and no tears not even once.

I found a lump on the side of my dogs neck and took him to the vet where they want to do a biopsy and I was so upset that it may be cancer and he would die. I love my dog so much, he is always with me and always loves me no matter what. He is always there for me. He never leaves my side. I got so upset it got me thinking.

How many people on here have a pet that they just love to bits, sometimes more than humans in their life. Or have pets that help them to feel good and just be there for them ?

I think the pets in our life do just as much to help us as any other type of therapy, what do you think ?

 

[J_trustno1]

Hi sammy, I'm sorry about your dog, hope he gets well soon.

I have had pets in the past who either died or were stolen and each time anything happened to them I cried a lot.

Now I don't have any pets but I have 4 cat friends from the neighborhood. All of them are very fond of me. One of them is a 14 year old male and he only has one eye. Whenever he sees me, he comes running to me and follows me around. When I pet him, he purrs , looks in my eyes and won't lie down without my hand under his head. He made me realize what unconditional love is, I felt like his mother when he was purring and looking at me in the eyes.

I only learned the word love from my animals but never from humans.

So yes, I love animals more than humans :).

 

[sun seeker]

Sorry to hear about your dog Sammy! I hope it turns out to be something benign.

I don't want to make comparisons with people, but I have a cat who means a great deal to me. We are very bonded. Two years ago I thought it was the responsible thing to do to get her spayed, though my intuition was telling me loudly to let her have one litter first. (People can still tell me that's irresponsible, but that's what my intuition was telling me.) I ignored it in favour of doing what I thought was responsible. She caught some kind of infection and stopped eating or drinking until I took her back for antibiotics. Scared me so much I still get freaked out if I think she isn't eating.

When I was a teenager, my dad admitted to being jealous of how much I doted on my cats. I think that says more about my dad than it does about me or my cats, though.

 

[Friday]

I almost never cry, not for people. Bawled like a baby over my dog. Spent 2 or 3 weeks on the floor with him before I had to kill him. Chose to. Kind of lost track of time. f*cked me up something fierce. To the point that I realized I needed to quit talking about it, which is a bad sign for me. But I can't handle it. He's like the sharp edge of a knife that cuts right through Kevlar like butter, leaving the rest of me all exposed. Everything else was crashing in through that rip, couldn't even mourn him in peace. Had to have every other damn ghost pile on. Nope. No more pets for me. No more kids, no more pets. Soul shredding. And there's simply not enough left of me to shred. Ya think something's safe to love, and then ya have to go and kill them, too. Nope. Done with it.

 

[Ghostybear73]

Yes, I love my dog more than people. Eric often jokes around that if the house was on fire, I'd grab Sadie and leave them. It's natural to feel the way you do Sammy and I'm sorry you are going through so much!!!!

Ghosty :hug:s

 

[Born to Run]

I have 7 rabbit friends. Since 25 years I have rescue rabbits, and every time one passes away, I find another one to provide a good home for. It is therapeutic for me to be able to give these homeless animals a good home with a rabbit worthy life. I have done a lot of crying over them in all these years, but could not imagine a life without animals. I think without them I would not be here anymore today. I can not imagine myself crying when my mother dies.

 

[scout86]

I try not to use "the L word" but yes. Although probably not "sometimes" probably most of the time.

Animals are a lot less complicated and more predictable than people. No lies, no tricks, no hidden agendas. They just are what they are, because they are.

Ya think something's safe to love, and then ya have to go and kill them, too.

Ain't it the truth! I've lost count of the times I've thought "I'm never going to care about something (someone) ever again! because the loss at the end of the road seemed like too big a price to pay. We all get to, or have to, find own answers for this one. One of my personal ways of losing track of "reality" goes along with "anything or anyone I care about dies". Well, duh, everything and everyone dies anyway. Told a good friend about this once. Told him he shouldn't be my friend because bad things happen to the few people I care about. His response was "Nothing bad's going to happen to me!". Shot himself last spring.... Which, of course, was my fault.... (I had decided I needed to move to the most remote location I could find for the good of humanity and might have actually done it, if it wasn't for my T.)

Anyway, in general, most of the time, I think the good parts of letting people and critters get to be important to you more than compensates for the horrible price you pay in the end. Not saying that works for everyone, but I guess it works for me. Most days anyhow.

Animals are definitely easier to like that people.

 

[jaccat]

Totally. Unconditional love. My cats have been my best friends, my playmates, my confidantes, my children. They love me back. When I got home last week after a few days away I got a four hour hug from my cat. Four hours he wouldn't let go of me. What human cares about me that much?

Losing them is horrible. I'm not too bad if it's the right way. Don't ask me to explain that. My little boy is the last of five. I feel bad because he's always had friends around, and my dad. Now its just me and him and I'm at work all day. For that reason I won't get another for a while. But we do okay.

Hope it turns out to be nothing serious.

 

[Julesnaz]

Yup. This is the first time I've had a cat that is all mine and not a family pet. She is definitely more special to me than the other pets in the house, 2 other cats and a dog. I got her in my divorce and she's really gotten me through it. I don't know what I would do without her. I love that she is a snuggler. She drives me nuts sometimes, but she's my baby.

 

[Ellabella44]

yes i connect to my cat and the cats at the rescue more than people. though the rescue's cats come and go, they come up to me like my cat does at home and let me pet them or insist on being pet. Its easier to look them in the eye, and appreciate their silent communication on a rough day. I dont know what id do without my cat Nietzsche. shes very special and calms me.

 

[Eleanor]

I once read a quote that said "If there are no animals in heaven, I think I'll pass, thanks." I love my animals, more than anyone but my children.

I had a cousin who is a vet, who after my ex tried to get him to back him up on something about my horse said, "If it comes down to choosing between the husband and the horse, pick the horse."

 

[Britt.f7]

I can't say I love them more then my boys, or even my husband, but I do love them more then some people. I cry horribly each time one dies.

I didn't think I would cry when my mother died, but I did. I also went into a huge depression. It was a horrible year and I still miss her.

Sorry for your loss Sammy. I hope the dog is alright!