Social Worker Suggested In-patient Treatment. I Am Freaking The Frag Out

[Mallaky]

Help :bawling:

Saw a social worker today, needed to because of the wellfare (is that the right word? i dont know) I get.
She suggested I make a in-patient therapy instead of a outpatient one.
She had never heard of PTSD though and her insensitive questions triggered me. I am a mess right now, want to drink me stupid to feel better :cry: i wont

I am freaking out, and crying. In-patient sounds horrible. Dont want to leave my home and my boyfriend. This shit triggers me. Dont want to go to a hospital, they are the worst places for me.

What to do? I am afraid and crying and hysterical

 

[sun seeker]

What to do?

First of all, breathe.

Can you tell us more? It sounds like she made a suggestion, but doesn't have the power to force you into this. Am I understanding correctly?

Do you have anyone else you are working with? A therapist of any kind? Or is the social worker the only one?

I don't know anything about how the system works in Germany, hopefully someone who does can give some concrete advice, but it sounds like you need to find a therapist who at least knows what PTSD is.

 

[shimmerz]

She had never heard of Link Removed though

Then she has no idea what is right for you. Don't take any type of advice from someone about your PTSD unless they are qualified therapists and even then, you don't need to do what they suggest.

You were really close with wellfare (it is welfare). It may be because she is handling someone that is a 'survival issue' for you, that you are being triggered by her. Like Sun says, breathe.....you don't need to do anything right now. :hug::hug:

 

[Neverthesame]

Wow. I can see why your so upset about that. I don't think I would be must better, were I in your shoes.

Definitely, breathe, very important. I am not 100% sure about Germanys mental health laws, but I am pretty sure the if you are not a danger your yourself and others, they cannot force you into a in-patient facility.

As @sun seeker said. If you can find a different social worker, that would probably be a good idea. If not, next time you see her, give her shit for upsetting you so badly. You might also consider talking with her supervisor. It is absolutely unacceptable for a social worker to be giving anyone any sort of advice, especially about a disorder that they hadn't even heard of untill you walked into their office.

Try, to stay calm and don't forget to breathe.

 

[sun seeker]

If not, next time you see her, give her shit for upsetting you so badly.

I'm of two minds about this. She should know how she is affecting people (it's probably not just you) but if she is as inexperienced and ineffectual as it sounds like she is, she may also have a huge ego and delusions based on her position of authority, and you don't want to rock the boat if she is in a position to cause you any grief. I'd make sure you have a good social worker and more of a support system in place first, and THEN go back and give her shit for upsetting you so badly, if it still seems important.

 

[Neverthesame]

@sun seeker That is a very good point. It's probably not a good idea to burn the bridge while your still crossing it. :p

 

[Care Bear]

I'm sorry you had to feel so judged by this insensitive person and that she made you to feel so bad about yourself.

Was the social worker you met a person assigned to you? Or was it just by luck that you met with her? Does she meet with dozens of people a day?

If she knows nothing more about you than what you told her in a few minutes, or what she read in a file, then you do not have to take her seriously at all. When people have a job like that, they often deal with tough people/situations, and forget to "reset" themselves before meeting with the next person. It sounds like she carried some frustration or insensitivity over to you. You said she "suggested" it, so it sounds like she herself can't make you do anything.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I agree. Don't ever take advice from anyone about PTSD, even if they are a professional, unless they know about PTSD! (I say this as what helps non-ptsd people can in fact hurt our healing. This goes for advice from professionals not trained in PTSD, either.)

 

[Springer80]

Why don't you ask her where it is she's thinking of? Not all in-patient treatment centres are what you imagine. Get the facts before you 'freak c'est chic' about what you may or may not be being offered. The only reason I say is that I've been for treatment at a place that is opening as a residential centre and if you saw it and the professional ethics that run it, you would probably be relieved of the offer.

Find out first....

 

[Mallaky]

Thank you all so very much. :hug: :hug: :hug:
I was not doing well, but your posts helped me so much!

I was reacting very, very threatened to something rather inoffensive.

That woman just did not stop talking about the inpatient treatment. She was not mean, just uninformed and stupid and so I wont burn any bridges. I just having to met her every few months, but she OKs my wellfare, so I am not going to burn any bridges. :cool:
"Yes. Thank you for the suggestion." I said. "I will look into it." and on and on and on she droned about it. 20 min like a broken record. She just did not stop and repeating the same sentences, drove me mad :wacky: "Yes. I understood. I agree I should learn about it. Thank you for your suggestion." and again she started. Nothing could stop that woman from telling me how much time I would save with inpatient treatment. Again. And again. And again. And aigain. And again. When I walked out of her office my legs were wobbly and shaky and it was Triggerino Town.

Now, with a few days distance, I think it is an interesting idea. Thank you all for being voices of reason when I was spinning out of controll!

 

[Care Bear]

I'm so glad to hear you are feeling better, @Mallaky. Wow, I could see how you got frustrated with her going on and on. Great job on not getting angry with her (I could see how it would have been hard). Since you'll have to see her next time, have some kind of answer ready for her if she asks again. And if she starts being a broken record again, maybe you can prepare some sort of other question for her (even if you already know the answer) so that you can change the subject.

 

[Sandstone]

I've been for treatment at a place that is opening as a residential centre and if you saw it and the professional ethics that run it, you would probably be relieved of the offer.

In the UK? Where? Who? How was it funded?