Not Sure If I Should Tell My Therapist Or Not

[Nicole0317]

So my therapist knows that my cousin
R---- me a few times but the thing I'm not sure to tell her about is that just a few years after that happend my younger brother started molesting me and I know I was older by a year so but I was so scared the first thing that popped into my mind was the last time I tried to fight against someone they just hurt me even more so I didn't fight back but at the same time it's my fault because I didn't fight back and I should of I just idk but I don't think she would believe me. I don't know if I should tell her or not and the molesting went on for 2years but I just I don't know how to tell her and I mean i dont want him to get in trouble at the same time because he didn't mean to right? He just didn't understand I mean I said no but maybe he just didn't hear me so I don't want him to get in trouble if it's my fault anyways
Not sure what to do:bag::banghead::unsure::nailbiting:

 

[KwanYingirl]

Any sexual perp deserves to be revealed. I dont care if you're related or not. I kept the secret of my grandfathers abuse for fifty years. That's a long time to suffer. He's been dead a long time but he shouldn't have had access to young girls.

Studies show that children abused in childhood are seven Times more likely to be raped as adults. I advise you to tell your therapist. If she doesn't have all the facts, she may be left wondering what's holding you back. The secrecy will keep you sick.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

It is not your fault, this should not have happened to you. I think you should explain it to your therapist, it might make you feel better if you do. It was in no way your fault that this happened to you, please don't blame yourself for it.

 

[Rumors]

I remember my therapist telling me that if you feel shame over something it probably needs to be discussed. I am sure that is hard to bring up, but perhaps you can write it down ?? If you are a minor be aware that your therapist is legally obligated to report a dangerous situation.

 

[shimmerz]

Idk, but I think the real value in talking to her about it is more about how you are working it out in your head. You want to get rid of this disempowering belief that you can't fight this stuff. It will have tremendous value to you as you walk a healty path in the future. I see it in the following two quotes

the last time I tried to fight against someone they just hurt me even more so I didn't fight back

but at the same time it's my fault because I didn't fight back and I should

I get the feeling that this is distorted thinking as well that she might be able to help you with. See, if you don't assign responsibility properly, then you turn it in on yourself. If your brother had not been in the room would you have gone out, found him and insisted that he rape you? I think not. Your brother was the perp, not you.

dont want him to get in trouble at the same time because he didn't mean to right? He just didn't understand I mean I said no but maybe he just didn't hear me so I don't want him to get in trouble if it's my fault anyways

 

[hodge]

Nicole, I definitely think you should tell your therapist about this. This was a really traumatic thing and you need to work through it. Are you still living at home with your brother?

 

[hodge]

And it was NOT your fault!!

 

[Nicole0317]

Nicole, I definitely think you should tell your therapist about this. This was a really traumatic thing and...

Yea I'm still living at home with my brother he sleeps 2feet away in his room but I told my T and yea know cps has to do an investigation and my parents are asking like 50questions about it and all that because they don't understand how my little brother did this and all that but they beleive me and so they moved his room down stairs

 

[hodge]

I'm glad your parents believed you. But I can't imagine still living in the same house with him. I am so sorry. I hope CPS can do something to get you some relief, like put him in a home somewhere. That may sound cruel, but you deserve to not have that happen to you again.

 

[Nicole0317]

I'm glad your parents believed you. But I can't imagine still living in the same house with him. I am so s...

Yea my parents are not understanding how I'm scared of him at all which is quite frustrating

 

[Friday]

When you say your brother didn't understand... Meaning he was a little kid, and you think he was acting out what was being done to him by someone else (like your cousin was raping him, too)?

 

[Nicole0317]

When you say your brother didn't understand... Meaning he was a little kid, and you think he was act...

No I didn't mean that we do wonder how or where he learned how to do some of the things he did to me but we aren't sure if that cousin did anything to him but didn't really think he did because well idk but I do know when my parents weren't there my cousin was always with me so idk how he could of bit it's definitely possible but when I said maybe he just didn't understand my T said it was like being in denial that my brother did that to me