Narcism?

[iwannadeletethis]

@sun seeker I believe it. Unfortunately now though, I'm just confused. Lol

 

[Anarchy]

The actual pathalogical Narcs are emotional parasites, they seem to live on the reactions that they manipulate others to have towards them.

The reactions might be fear,awe, admiration...

They are intuitive experts at manipulation, and seem to live for those reflections of themselves that they try to force other people to show.

The buggers freak me out completely.

Some can be quite subtle and I am not good at spotting any sort of narc until they have hurt me.

No,I think it is extremely unlikely that you are a NARC, and as others have already said, worrying about being a narc is fairly conclusive evidence for not being one.

 

[Anarchy]

Just a thought, you could try watching some of Sam Vaknin's vids on YouTube. Bear in mind that he describes himself as having twice been diagnosed as a psychopathic narcissist. That said, he does come across as having done some serious work on understanding narcissistic personality and healing himself.

He also gives tips on how to get inside a narc's brain and start f*cking their world up for them, with things like low grade narcissistic supply, and telling them that they are nothing special, and actually very average and mediocre...
If you ever try that with a narc, be prepared for an explosive display of narcissistic rage,and attempts to punish you for your blasphemy!
Doncha lovem
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[Ronin]

This forum needs a rename. If we had as many adoptive puppies & advice on healing as we have about everybody's narcism we could empty all the shelters across at least one state & heal ourselves, no need for a PTSD forum.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@Anarchy ... Oh my stars I love it!! Haha. Stoked to get some of that knowledge in my life <3

 

[iwannadeletethis]

That's intense @Cashew !!! Quite the thing to think about.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Just a thought, you could try watching some of Sam Vaknin's vids on YouTube. Bear in mind that he descri...

I looked that guy up!! Totally creepy. You can tell he used to be like that .. If he's not just become the greatest narc of all. Lol

 

[Flossy]

I attract Narcissists and over-empathise with the pain of others too. I also attract people with Borderline Personlity Disorder and also have some 'learned traits' of BPD.

None of this means you are a Narcissist. Probably the opposite. Narcissists are attracted to and actually target highly empathetic people.

Dont even see yourself as over-examining. try to view it as learning about life, write it down like you are studying. When it makes you feel bad, that means you need to distract yourself and do something nice for yourself. Don't push your raw nerves when you are feeling fragile.

I promise you, that your question is something a true Narcisisst never asks themselves. They assume that they are perfect and right. It would not occur to them and even if they were told by an expert they would say the expert was an idiot.

It can be triggering to read some posts or stay too long on the forum. I tried to use a timer that rings and give myself only a certain amount of time on here. That's how I did it earlier. I wanted to suck it all up and learn so much, but felt like sh#t after.

Now, I mainly come on for a little bit to see if I can talk to anyone and to go to the funny sections.

You're gunna be OK. Because you want to learn. That's not a bad thing.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

I attract Narcissists and over-empathise with the pain of others too. I also attract people with Borderli...

Thanks @Flossy <3 I think I'm with a narsisist now and am hoping to come up with the funds to leave(unless proven wrong). I'm learning how to cut off any narsisistic supply and am looking into teaching English over seas!

 

[Flossy]

@Skitzii I agree on your thinking about your current situation, though I know little of it, from what you described, the behaviour and attitude fitted. Just be careful please and don't reveal what you feel you have realised. It can make bullying, controlling and manipulating behaviours escalate and you do not need that extra stress. If the situation is involving a Narc it is best to give vague confused reasons for leaving or for time apart and allow them to find their supply with someone else. If they feel threatened with exposure or confrontation it can get nasty and they can do all in their power to "prove' fault all is on you, through lies and twists.

You can find guidelines for safely disconnecting from the relationship in the communities you are learning through.

It's not part of your nature to be 'sneaky' probably, but it might be wise to prepare quietly a good plan. Apparently, Dr Phil's wife Robyn has an app on his website you can use in your situation if necessary.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

There's an app for that?? Lol. @Flossy how funny and convenient!! Yeah.. I can tell. All I tried to do last night is to not start cooking something he wanted me to and he started ignoring me. I tried to talk about myself and he "politely" stopped me.