Is There Just Always A Snake In The Grass??

[iwannadeletethis]

" If I were to ice queen that shit I'd be gone so much faster." And that would be a bad thing how?...

It would be a bad thing because I have to make money or I'm on the streets. I have no friends or family to fall back on. And it doesn't matter anyway. The next business will be the same way.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Jaded by all the bad experiences I get it... but, BIG BUT... there is a workplace for you and you'd...

That's all I've ever done and it gets me into trouble every time.

 

[The Albatross]

It's just learning to read people @albitross.

Hmm. It has been my direct personal experience that when "reading people" I can be utterly and completely wrong... I deal with what is and not what is not yet before me. I also had to self examine, if it was a repeat pattern, what in myself was contributing to the issue.

 

[The Albatross]

"it gets me in trouble every time" is a cognitive distortion. You though are the common denominator... do some self examination. A sponsor/mentor once told me I had a "broken 'people picker"... sounds like you may have one too?

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Hmm. It has been my direct personal experience that when "reading people" I can be utterly and com...

No, I'm just actually good at reading people. Promise. It's my biggest non emotionally based obsession. Like a hobby. It's like, you're looking at this huge beautiful painting. Normal bi standards can walk by and can observe the simple beauty or mistakes. But if you stand there trying to learn every line and detail you start to notice the chaos. But you're sensitive because you love the beauty so much so you can't just enjoy the painting anymore.

And believe me, I pick out the snake every time. Without casting that shadow on them. I appreciate your perspective but I assure you. I don't need "fixed". I need hope.

 

[The Albatross]

If I were to ice queen that shit I'd be gone so much faster

I don't cave either. People mistake my kindness for flirting all the time. I just come from a different culture. And I think that's my temporary job security right there. If I were to ice queen that shit I'd be gone so much faster.

I think I would self examine that as well and determine for your own personal well being that chalking it up to cultural differences, maybe a break out of cultural norms OR... re-examining for yourself your self habits/behaviors that leads people to consider you open to this kind of an "exchange"... and it is an exchange... why this is a pattern you don't want to repeat, yet you feel resigned to be hypervigilent in your field/assess for threats.

 

[The Albatross]

If your last post is indeed true and accurate, you are unerringly being drawn to the familiar. Why? If it is not "generally beneficial" change occupations or endeavor to alter your pattern/course.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

If I were to ice queen that shit I'd be gone so much faster


I think I would self examine that as...

It's not an exchange. It's me being smiley and chatty and polite in a cold city. But sticking to small talk with no touching or not even wearing anything showing too much while flaunting my boyfriend. You seriously have no right. And you sound jaded and triggery. So please take a break from this thread.

 

[The Albatross]

P.S. Unless you want to be a snake charmer, which is a very highly risky occupation (attempt at lightening the mood though I realize this is a serious issue).

There was a book way back about rules for living... like number one was you have a body... another was something like... lessons are repeated until they are learned. I think you would benefit from this book... you want LONG term employ in a safe environment, yet you are the common denominator in the cycle... I'll see if I can dig it up?

 

[The Albatross]

As you wish.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

The business world runs on fear and fear brings out the snake in people. Every new hire is a potential...

@WillyKat im sure that's exactly it. It's really great to have that written out so plainly <3 thanks!!

I try to just keep my head down and get home too and pray no one triggers me. But what a sad way to live!

 

[Ronin]

There was a book way back about rules for living...

To possibly spare you some digging, If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules, by Cherie Carter Scott. Dead Link Removed

(I apologize for messy linking)