General Today Is A Hard Day For Me!

[Vickym]

Im trying not to add to my bf stress but sometimes I just dont know what to say. Four weeks ago now my bf left on what was a 3 week trip. Well one week into it he was coming back then I didnt hear from him for a couple of days. When I did hear from him he decided to stay for the other 2 weeks. I should note his step dad has cancer and my bf hasnt spent very much time with him cause they live 4 hours from us. This week I have been on my vacation and I was expecting him to come home when he changed his plans and said 5 more days. Yeah i cried. I really thought this would be our time the kids are back in school and it has been 4 weeks. So today was the day he was suppose to come home and now hes not. Im very hurt and sad tomorrow was going to be the last day we would be without the kids. Its very hard because he is well military trained so I cant hide my feelings even through the phone he can tell by the slightest change in my tone of voice so there is no point in trying to hide it because that makes him suspicious. Any ideas?

 

[DLadi]

Hi Vickym,

I would tend to think that he needs to spend more time with his parents. It might be very stressful to think about leaving his dad in his condition. It's understandable that you are very disappointed. I think it is safe for you to say that you are disappointed, if he asks, but also tell him that you understand why he would stay. Support him as much as you can. Be the safe one for him to return to. This is a very hard time for him- seeing that he is losing his father. You will be there in a few weeks- his father may not be.
Cry if you need to but don't let him hear it. Your feelings are real and his are as well. Many hugs to you.... D

 

[Vickym]

He came home! Aww it feels so good to see him!

 

[sirsir]

VickyM I am going to have to agree with DLadi please give your bf sometime the death of a love one is so hard(expectally if you have unresolved issues). I understand that you miss him but he is not running away from you he is just trying to make the most of the small amount of time he has with his dad. Peace for now.

 

[Vickym]

sirsir thanks I know what you mean about unresolved issues my mom passed away 2 years ago it still seems like yesterday :( however my bf came home last night im so happy and will 100% understand if he goes back.

 

[Nicolette]

He came home! Aww it feels so good to see him!

I'm really happy for you Vicky but please take care of yourself and make sure you don't have to go through further heartache. By this I mean that your boyfriend came home for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. :rolleyes: