Other My Boyfriend Seems To Be Paranoid Because He Thinks I Love His Brother

[Queen Boudica]

Finally, so he doesn't have PTSD. why are you on a PTSD site?

 

[Queen Boudica]

Wrong, he has already punched someone because of his jeolousy. Not long before he does it to you. You are young, don't become a victim of abuse from someone who is obviously showing a dangerous pattern. That is not love he is showing you, that is control.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

Finally, so he doesn't have PTSD. why are you on a PTSD site?

No he doesn't.
I thought PTSD is another name for paranoid...

 

[Queen Boudica]

No PTSD is post traumatic stress disorder. have you got a counsellor at school you can talk to? Go to them please and talk about this guy. Please don't confuse paranoid, violent jeolousy as love, it always ends up in them abusing you.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

No PTSD is post traumatic stress disorder. have you got a counsellor at school you can talk to? Go...

We don't have one at school and I can't meet a counsellor that's why I came here to get help...

 

[Queen Boudica]

How old is your boyfriend and how old are you? Do you have any trusted adult you can go to and talk about this?

 

[Lucycat]

Hello Aida.
I am wondering how old you are? You and your boyfriend are still in school so I am guessing you are all children. It certainly comes across like that the way you are responding.
An adult answer would be to take someone with suspected paranoia to a doctor for a diagnosis and treatment, not ask a bunch of random strangers to make a diagnosis for you.

As others have said, This forum is about PTSD, for sufferers, supporters and people with a special interest.
Please explain to us why you are on the PTSD forum so we can make sense of it.

Paranoia is not the answer.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

How old is your boyfriend and how old are you? Do you have any trusted adult you can go to and talk...

I am 16 and he will be 18 in 3 months
I don't have any trusted adult to talk to at all.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

Hello Aida.
I am wondering how old you are? You and your boyfriend are still in school so I am guessing y...

Yea I'm 16 and on a wrong place...

 

[Queen Boudica]

OK well I am a victim of domestic abuse and I have trauma because of it. I know quite a bit about how women get themselves into domestic abuse situations. What I can tell you is what you have described on here is a guy who is paranoid and jeolous, already checking your texts, already punching people who show any interest in you. He is controlling and abusive. So all I can say is that is not love. He shows all the signs he will get violent towards you. You cannot help him. Don't feel sorry for him, you can't mother him, nothing you can do will stop him behaving this way and nothing you have done is wrong.

You have said your parents don't approve of the relationship. Do you know why? Are you close with your parents? Has this guy come between you and your parents?

 

[intothelight]

@Aida-Kanan Yes, ending a relationship hurts, but this is a relationship that is best to end. Keep yourself safe and you deserve to be treated so much better.

 

[Aida-Kanan]

OK well I am a victim of domestic abuse and I have trauma because of it. I know quite a bit about h...

Well he actually has made a big sacrifice for me... he had this chance to play for one of the five top football teams here in Netherland but refused it to stay close to me, and it makes me feel like he loves me butindeed I can't close my eyes on his violentbehaviour.
My mom doesn't like him at all and doesn't want us together.