Relationship He thinks i have a hit man on him

[Renestel]

like others, I am so sorry you are going through this. I can't answer all your questions but I want to definitely share this with you. I wrote a thread about the 4th of July because it is becoming my most hated and feared holiday. My neighborhood has absolutely no respect for anyone despite it being illegal, causes fires, at least 30 people in my neighborhood app said their dogs were throwing up, crapping in the house, not eating because the huge bombs they were shooting up were SOOO out of control. I was very affected. I am not even a vet, I am a complex PTSD repetitive sexual assault survivor. Doesn't matter. PTSD is PTSD in some cases. It's all about the fight or flight part. 4th of July gets me in heavy duty fight mode, I become extremely paranoid about people burning my house down, breaking in, etc. My husband travels a lot and has been gone this whole time. I'm so bad about the 4th that even though its been a week he is due in to return tomorrow, and through counseling I have had to learn to tell him I need to give you a heads up when I'm really bad paranoia wise so that you say something when you come in the house. Otherwise, I once took him as an attacker and thankfully I recognized him soon enough to lower my weapon. the 4th of July is a huge trigger to many. He may be in a totally past mentality right now. And I live in a state where weed is legal, and I have gotten caught off guard with a weird strain as well. Two suggestions there: one, go to the medical stores with him and say to the clerks, hey, this is very sensitive, he needs one that has NO paranoia. Just relaxation. Really feel free to be somewhat aggressive. I am and have had much better luck since then. Next suggestion: This is SOOO hard because it's not you, but if in future terms you can talk with him before the holiday and say can we have a goal of not doing this and this because you seem to be worse off when you do it? That may or may not go over well. But worth a try. I will say I have been drinking at least a third of a liter of vodka since the firework drama started and I'm 150 lb female. Thats a lot of medicating. Sounds like he is desperate to avoid his thoughts too. But paranoia sounds like the biggest factor here. It has taken over to where he is literally trying to drive you out because of possibly two things: the delusions are truly getting to him OR he is like many other stories on here where people struggling with PTSD push their spouses away because of feelings of I'm not worthy enough, Im too uncomfortable with someone this close to me or in many cases its a I'm trying to push you away to not have to deal with me when they are in the moment yelling at you that you are the problem. So in conclusion, I would say get back to the therapist as quick as possible. As for you immediately, I would probably get a hotel vs. fight the issue at least tonight. It sounds like he is too wound up and lost in his mind. :( I'm sure this is very confusing for you. Stay safe.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yeah, I would ask him to stop smoking marijuana. Even the medical ones can causes a lot of issues. Especially if he is smoking it as smoke alone is very hazardious. Look into CBD oil. Its the part in marijuana, seperated from THC, the part that makes you high, that helps anxiety and other symptoms. If I were to use it that would be the only way other then pill form or possible eating though that is debatable.

Florida just passed medical marijuana and I have chronic pain along with massive anxiety, and that anxiety/terror is magnified at night, when I could use marijuana the most. To sleep. But I have not asked for it from my pain doctor or my therapist simply because I don't want blow back like massive paranoia. I have enough of that without marijuana.

Sorry you went through this but I would make it a point to make this a point of discussion. In my opinion, he needs to stop smoking it or only smoke known strains. I would also make it a point to advise his therapist of this reaction. If they are the prescribing doctor, they need to know. Just like if it were a bad reaction to medication. Its the exact same thing. I personally would want to put some sort of safe guard in there for yourself. A place to go, a place for him to go (if he will listen in that state), a safe word or secert word, or just that you will be calling 911 and let them keep him until he is ok. There needs to be safe guards so you don't spend a day in the backyard again.

But, I agree that inpatient isn't needed in my opinion. Paranoia of this kind in vets is rather common that I have seen and it was directly after smoking a new strain of medical marijuana, and fireworks, and deesclated on its own.

Just my opinions.

 

[Renestel]

I agree with Lost, I personally as a shot in the dark would say this would scale down, but how many times has this happened to this degree where you are in the backyard? I guess I should have asked that.

 

[EveHarrington]

I always get concerned when people turn to pot because it's "natural".

Just because something is "natural" doesn't make it healthy or good.

AND one could argue that pot isn't exactly "natural" anymore as humans have manipulated pot DNA up the wazoo to bring out certain traits.

If he's reacting this severely to pot, it's advisable that he stop using it.

Most meds won't cause that extreme of a reaction. And he's woefully misinformed about misuse of psychiatric medication. Most psych meds don't lend them self to abuse as most don't give instant relief.