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What Do You Think About Putting A Child On Psychiatric Medication?

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Heather

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Nicole is only 12 y/o and she's not sleeping through the night. Today she said her anxiety was soo bad she couldn't concentrate at school to do her 20 minutes of reading.

She's so sad and miserable.

So, I'm having her evaluated by a psychiatrist. Pediatrician recommended melatonin to help with sleep. We are at 2 mg's but not helping. She doesn't even want to take it, since it doesn't help.

I don't know what they'll suggest but I'm having a very hard time wrapping my head around putting a 12 y/o little girl on medication. Whether it's for depression. I don't think they'd offer her an anti-anxiety med.

All I know is we can't keep going like this. 'Cause this isn't working.
 
2mg is a tiny dose, as up to 10mg is quite okay for her age. She may need more for it to work.

I have an 8.5yr old on Abilify, but he has a huge mood and sleep disturbance that was not solved by MANY other options. Honestly, it's hard and scary to go through, but it's been a life saver! He is so much happier and functional too.

Your daughter should see someone anyways and they can help you understand best options and practices. I understand this is so hard to watch, but you're doing a great job!
 
Has anyone talked to her to find out why she is having trouble sleeping and is so anxious she can't concentrate?

She sees a therapist on regular basis.

She was molested for almost 2 years. Just came out about 6 weeks ago. Now that it's out, she can't deny it anymore. Having all kinds of problems. Other stressors too i.e. friends, trouble with a boy she liked, changing public school to homeschool.

All stressful.
 
@Panda Bear 10mg of melatonin? Really, for someone her age? Pediatrician said she could go to 3mg. for her weight. But she doesn't want to take it, anyway.
 
Also, how do I know that this isn't just situational? 'Cause what we are going through and will resolve with time. That's why I'm reluctant to go medication route. But seeing her suffer is hard.

She said last night that she'll always be miserable and nothing will ever get better. Hard to hear.
 
Even if it's situational medications can still help. You can start them and reevaluate later to see if you want to continue.
 
She's so young. I don't know if I want to go down that road. Will see what happens at the appointment.
 
Psych meds in kids & teens are highly problematic. The hormonal fluctuations change the way that their bodies affect them, even from one day to the next, so finding a good fit? Is often -if not nearly always- an adventure in inpatient psychiatric care. In no small part as risk for suicide is astronomically high. In part, because children's brains react differently than adult brains, but also because their impulse control is generally far, far lower than an adults. So wherein an adult might go Yo! Doc! Get me the hell off the medication! teens have a habit of jumping, slicing their wrists, or simply walking out into traffic.

My son needed life saving medication for about a year and a half that had the pesky little side effect of giving him massive insomnia. 20-30 hours up before he could sleep. Since we were homeschooling? No biggie. A pain for both of us, for sure :wtf:, but it just required switching some lifestyle stuff around. During his various hospitalizations, they would sometimes admin a sedative so he could sleep... But it had to be strictly monitored (going on a sedative meant off the medically complex ward with hourly vitals, and into the PICU with constant monitoring). Both because kids just react weird to psych meds, and because of the risk of triggering suicidal impulse for the next 36-48 hours. At our hospital, the only 3 places kids are given sedatives or anti-anxiety meds are where they are under constant monitoring; surgical/postOp, psych, & the PICU. I got to know a lot of the psych parents really well, because the average stay for getting on bipolar meds was 90-180 days, and being a regional trauma center, our hospital got a whole helluva lot of bipolar kids who very desperately needed to be stabilized. ((Some of this is exp of dealing with my own kiddo, some being a hospital parent, and some from school.))

So that's the short term problem. The other big problem is that we really don't have great data -from a neurological perspective- on the long term effects of most psych meds on still developing brains. There are some meds which have been studied extensively in children, stimulants for ADHD primarily, but the vast majority of other psychiatric meds have such a strong tendency to cause very bad things in kids in the short term, that few have been studied longitudinally. So we simply don't know how they're going to affect neurological development.

About the only things I know of given to kids to help with sleep, that don't require an inpatient stay, are melatonin & antihistamines. But both can also trigger insomnia & rage. So it's a bit of a crap shoot, there.

ETA... Whoops! One other... which I kind of forgot about... Is pot. At our hospital it's primarily used for the cancer kids & appetite / pain control on top of, or when they're withdrawing them off fentanyl etc., and needed something to at least take the edge off while they kicked the narcotics enough to go back on the narcotics. It was something we were offered until they found out we were homeschooling (meaning we could adjust our schedule to fit his sleep schedule, and the if things got severe he wouldn't be missing school to come inpatient for a bit).
 
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I am so sorry.
She will suffer and there are so many variables to take into account but I would hesitate on medication. I would make sure she had a good therapist, someone she really liked and felt safe with. She needs to learn to cope without medication and regain a sense of ownership of herself physically and emotionally. That is hard work for an adult and certainly no easy task for a 12 year old. She needs to get past not letting it define her or she might not make good choices in the future. Moving through the suffering is better to do now that keep it "controlled" with medication for 20 or 30 years leaving it undealt with until it demands that it must be faced. A good therapist is your best start.
 
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