Recent content by foggy

I am trying to find out if this blow up is deserved. "Sorry I don't give a shit"? I'll go away for a few days and see if i want to come back. You can delete my account if you like. Maybe delete your post too before others see it.

Ok Ok, fine fine. I didn't mean to cause a major problem.

I agree that you should remove my ex's name and my ex fathers name. I didn't think it was possible anyone would recognize them by their first name, but it is fair. The lawyer and the judge, however, were acting in their professional capacity. These not confidential, personal or private...

I posted in /general forum a pretty horrific thing that happening Monday. I told some people at work what they needed to know to get the paperwork done and let them know it was okay to do the paperwork. I told my friend at work what was going on. My boss called me. He said my friend told him...

It is kind of hard to comprehend, but it is not so much the court. I don't do this, I do see others do this, so I don't understand it. My ex Dad is a power networker. We would go to the Club to these giant dinners. It was disconcerting to see people approach him with friendship and he would...

I have been working on detachment, letting go of the fear of what she might do, and that i will be okay no matter what. I also practice turning it over to God and letting him handle it. Or praying for his will and letting it go. I even made a "God Jar" one time. You write the problem and put it...

Oh, my god was that tough. I had two, survival guilt and control. My AA sponsor nailed me with a technique I often use now. What would your brother want? Would he want you to suffer like this? I let go of survival guilt, that I went on living and it wan't fair because he died. The control was...

I felt a lot like things weren't real. Like I would be in an AA meeting and I could touch the table in front me, but it wasn't really there. I thought this was the side effects of a defense mechanism, like denial or disassociation. That I made my trauma not real to cope, and then this took...

Ha ha ha, that is why it didn't work!

This is super tricky. People typically have strong emotions on these things. I think if you want to try discussion I am okay.

Ah man, someone pm'd me and I keep messing up the reply and it posts here.

Often in AA someone will say they hate a a particular sex. Someone hurt them in the past, typically a parent, and they have blamed the entire group. We tolerate their sexism as they work through it. Someone may have a series of bad relationships and blames that sex. We help them see it is their...

I thought I would share this because I think it is helpful. Evolution says our species evolved to a particular environment 200k years ago. Our reactions to threats, typically predators, which are the same for many animals. 1. Muscle tension in neck. This is called armoring, or keeping the bite...

The magic is in the story. If you make a movie about trauma, it is too real and painful, so you make it a cartoon. See "Waltzing with Bashir". A lot of Anime deal with trauma. Demon Slayer is an anime about losing your family and saving your remaining sister. It is about having the power to do...