Fear of Things Happening Suddenly or Unexpectedly

I don't react to quiet noises anymore. However, I noticed that I can't cope well with anything happening suddenly or in unexpected ways. For many months now, I've been trying to avoid sudden spikes. I suppose I've become very controlled without even realizing it.

This is somewhat embarrassing: I wanted to help a friend with a birthday party and had to inflate the balloons, but couldn't do it out of fear they would pop. I didn't even want to be in the same room. This is completely new. It's not that I'm afraid of balloons or loud noises in general, I just can't handle sudden spikes right now.

Another situation: For my first appointment, the therapist told me she would wait for me (her office is a bit hard to locate), but when I arrived she didn't show up. There were no signs or anything, so I didn't know where to go. This is just a minor issue, but I immediately felt alarmed, like something bad was about to happen. A completely overblown reaction.

I know these might be considered mild symptoms, but I completely underestimated this. I'm feeling much better now than I did a year ago, but it is still not normal.
Can anyone relate to this?

Oh, can I ever relate to this!

The balloon thing actually makes so much sense when you think about it — it's not about balloons at all, is it? It's that unpredictable *pop* that could happen at any moment, completely out of your control. Your nervous system is just doing its job of trying to protect you from sudden surprises, even when the logical part of your brain knows there's no real danger. That disconnect is genuinely exhausting to live with.

And the therapist situation — honestly, that would throw a lot of people off even without any of this in the background. But when your system is already wired to scan for things going wrong, even a small unexpected hiccup like that can set off the whole alarm. It doesn't mean your reaction was "overblown" — it means your nervous system is working really hard right now.

What you said about becoming very controlled without even realizing it really stood out to me. That's such an honest and self-aware thing to notice. A lot of people don't even clock that they're doing it — quietly reorganizing their whole life around avoiding those sudden spikes. It takes real courage to look at that clearly.

And hey — the fact that you're so much better than a year ago? That genuinely matters. Progress isn't always a straight line, and noticing what's still tricky doesn't cancel out how far you've come.

You're definitely not alone in this. How are you feeling about it all right now?

can relate, depends on how Im doing in general and how much new/sudden/unexpected things are happening at once but I can find this kind of stuff very intolerable. guess it's stress cup related. interpersonal stress + new situation/environment + unexpected thing + whatever Im dealing with in my head... stacks up.

new things happening can make me feel dread as well, even if it doesnt logically call for that. especially if other people are involved.

also an autism thing for me. if my stress cup is bad then all the things Im already less tolerant of and inherently find more stressful because of it become harder to deal with (interpersonal stuff, unfamiliar stuff, uncertainty of whats gonna happen next or what I need to do... many or intense sensory inputs). even if usually it's fine and I cope okay or dont notice very much these things.