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@ lostforgottensoul I didn't take time to read everything. (Sorry. Unrelated personal reasons.) I understand your hurt. I can't stress enough Gizmo's comments that I read (and others'). I admire your honesty. I admire your strength of character. You have morphed like a caterpillar into...

Rough sleepless night myself due to pinched nerve. And work to do today so I need go. The alternate universe strikes home. It's as if by being a compassionate and understanding human being I become invisible except for when some needy troglodyte comes by and decides they need something from...

Thank you for a well spoken thread. There are times that I feel muchly the same way. If muchly isn't a word, it is now. I pm one of the other people on here a lot. We've discussed this searing soul ripping loneliness that can happen. It's not something I ever had to deal with very much. Until...

Wow. You said some good stuff. Tough decisions and tough to come to. When I was in my twenties I used and abused and ran with "the crowd" (even though I thought not). I couldn't understand why my life was so full of unfortunate, crappy circumstances that always happened to "me". Why "me"...

How's everything going??? I hope things are proceeding in a positive direction in your life and that some peace of mind and serenity happen to drop in once in a while.....

Ladee and Claroscuro described it perfectly. When our computer like little brains are programmed from an early age to believe these things, the program has to be overwritten and overwritten time and time again until the new "I am a GOOD me" program begins to crowd out the old debris, and we...

Thank you so very much for posting. From experience I think I understand your feelings. I think "this" other woman had good intentions. That might not be what you want to hear, but I think she was trying to be helpful and was trying to instill "her" positive attitude in you. Unfortunately...

I've always sensed that we are little computers born into this world and our "programs" are what we experience in those first few years. We seem so powerless to overwrite those programs no matter how faulty they are. But, unlike computers, we can learn and rewrite those bad programs and faulty...

:) I agree. If he doesn't already know or suspect, I'll bet if you ever express yourself to him, he'd be very understanding. Speaking from personal experience, I tend to think the worst and be fearful, when often I am the one who is creating all the roadblocks. I tend to make mountains out...

No analysis offered, just simply congratulations. Out of all those years, 10 minutes is a lot. It's like stepping on the moon. I am very happy for you. Hopefully life will bestow more understanding and compassion and more can happen. Welcome, as well, to the website. Being here has helped me...

Anytime you introduce the concept of "dishonesty" into any relationship - marriage, therapy, S/O, kids, friends....... and establishing beforehand that you have thought it out and think it's "OK", you are destroying the foundation that relationships are built upon, and breaching the trust with...

I love your sarcasm. It seems to be one of my coping mechanisms too..... I was afraid I sounded a bit insensitive, I'm glad you understood. Your comment: " is one of the kindest descriptions of how it must feel to be a supporter. I loved it. I admire your optimism. You seem to have it...

I hope your day goes better. I too am sorry that society judges and is insensitive. Honesty, integrity, and compassion matter. What speaks from the heart matters. It is truly sad when people are insensitive and lack understanding. I think you have many important gifts, even if society does not...

I like the cookie idea. I might just keep acting up if you make good cookies. Chocolate chip?? Maybe make a game of it? Try tossing them and he can catch them in his mouth until his crappy mood goes away? This time of year is rough on moods/ptsd/supporters. Vitamin D, sunshine, outside...

I haven't had TV in years. Too expensive. And 80 % commercial interruption. Netflix and Prime work for me. And I hardly ever use those. Occasionally for a sports event I make it a social event and find a sports bar or a friend's house. I just don't need TV when I have you guys for...

It means times of insecurity and life can get to be an emotional roller coaster ride. The highs are great, the lows will suck. This is what it means to "be strong". Living life with exit strategies, as well as denying some of your needs and pleasures does require inner strength. You sound...

Thank you. That was well spoken. You speak many truths, but are you able to accept them? Denial and fear so often cloud our ability to protect our emotions. And ourselves. It definitely sounds like ptsd. It also sounds like an immature male and a "player". As a sufferer, I am sympathetic...

Opiate addict......no. Compulsively addicted to escaping reality? Through whatever means is available? Alcohol, weed, coke, gambling, work, yep. All my life. Compulsively. Opiates, heroin, needles, meth....something in me drew the line. Maybe cuz I saw the utter devastation that causes to the...

Sending all the inner strength and serenity I can muster over your way. You are doing such a great job, Lion. You are all in my prayers and thoughts often.

To Zoogal: I wish you, as I think every one else here does also, as much support and healing as you need. For you, your children, and those others' in your sphere who are hurting. It is so painful when things resurface, especially when we are blindsided. The anger and desire for restitution and...

Thank you Angela Corgan for very encouraging words. It's hard work emotionally. And it can be painful. But I also believe that it can bear fruit. The hypersensitivity lessens. The pain abates ever so little and so slowly. I begin to feel better about things and handle things better. I am...

That's always good. There's really never any reason for animosity, no matter which way the relationship is going. Having unrealistic expectations of our partner or ourselves just sets us up for disappointment and emotional distress. Sometimes those expectations are real, and even necessary to a...

Any progress?? Just checking in. Hope things are going in a positive direction for you.

Thank you for the good news. Personal growth is always good news. G'day!

I have to head out for work, so I really can't devote adequate thought to that answer just yet. I'll think on how to explain that overnight and get back to you. But one example. I can't believe my wife won't summon the white steed and mount up and gallop to our rescue. I can't believe it's not...