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Thanks for asking, @Allie D. Things have calmed down a lot. The emotion and drama has gone, and my friend's son is on the mend. It's hard to look at him and think he has a death wish. He wants to get better and go back to normal. He got upset that he had to go to his dad's, but even more so now...

I think it's a definite case of gaslighting.

Thank you @kkd and @Friday. @Friday, your comments are always helpful, and sometimes I don't realize it until months down the line. But sometimes something you said will click on like a light. I thought your perspectives were really reasonable, and were confirming of some of the things that I...

Thanks so much, @joeylittle. That was a very helpful post. I didn't realize it was a new diagnosis. I just read about it online. I read that it is not a mental illness per se, but as you say, was seen as a feature of more primary mental illness. I read that it was a coping disorder. Her son...

Thanks for everyone's replies. I was confused by this situation and I'm getting confirmation that it's not that clear cut. @enough and @Friday, I think you both make a good case, especially given the details that I provided. But can I say that I have a very strong intuition that there is a...

I haven't had experience with self injury, and I never heard about it manifesting this way, so I wanted to see if anyone had any insights about this. I have a friend who has a 15 year old teen who is "accident prone." He's already broken 4 bones in his body at different times. His "accidents"...

Thanks @grit.

Thanks for replying, @Widow_of_one. I'm glad to know that there are others out there going through the same thing. Just to update the situation, as usual, my fears and panic had absolutely no basis in truth. The very next time I saw him after my freak out, he was beaming, loving, supportive...

I'm very triggered, and partly intended to write another post about how I fear I've done something to alienate my bf and try to assess the reality of it or is it the ptsd? That happens quite frequently with me because my dad would punish me severely for the most innocuous deeds or words. I grew...

I read Codependent No More and re-read a few times. Neither of my parents were alcoholics, but my mom was the daughter of one. Either way, I can relate to the author a lot. I grew up having to fixate on serving my parents, especially my father. Any emotion or needs expressed on my part was met...

Thanks @Friday. Those are good questions. In the past, he has sometimes been slow to respond to my texts. But usually because of work. He's not working now. I'm not sure why he didn't respond to my texts, but he texted me later that night just to see how I was doing and we had a nice texting...

I'm so triggered. The other night, I said some pretty harsh things to my bf, and I feel like he's ignoring me today because of it. I basically told him how when I first met him, he said something rude and I told him that I was thinking "F**k you, motherf***ker". I was joking. I was just...

@FauxLiz , sounds like a good plan - to keep things normal as possible in the externals while you take care of what you need to. I think it's really hard to extricate oneself from a relationship even a short-term one when you've already started to care about someone. It isn't easy, but stay...

@blackemerald1 I don't know how far apart we are because you're saying that it's important to know what the guy's shabby behavior is and to call a spade a spade. My ex bf who had ptsd left me feeling like I was doing terrible things because he was untreated and was constantly triggered and...

@blackemerald1 , I think what you say makes a lot of sense. There is so much fogging up the lens that goes on when we have ptsd that we should probably clear the lens before anything else. However, once the fog is clear, you might still see a bad guy in front of you. It might not just be the...

FauxLiz, I'm pretty angry at this guy on your behalf. I dated someone like that once during a really difficult period of my life which was why I was quite blind to his patterns which sounds a lot like your guy. I think your guy keeps loved ones at arm's length because he doesn't want to be...

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. CSA is not a major component of my cptsd, though like many girls, there were plenty of brushes with it. I just wanted to post that a strong factor in cptsd that I don't think we talk about often enough is that as children, we need our parents/caregivers...

Thanks for your perspective. I do struggle with asking for what I need sometimes in the concrete. I could easily see that I turn the need for support off to protect myself from getting disappointed. And the other comments here also remind me that when it is safe, I do appreciate the kinds of...

That's lovely. I remember times when I was feeling down, a smile from a stranger completely turned me around. I think behind the hot chocolate was a gesture of care. TBH, I wasn't thinking of those moments in moral support. The trouble I have is when friends assume that I want company and...

Thanks for ya'll's perspective on this. @Ronin, good point about the self talk. I wonder if it's adding to my sense of alienation. I think part of the sense of alienation is that it really isn't in my experience to "need" moral support, so I have to piece it together using evidence of my eyes...

I was talking to my T the other day, and it's funny because once in while I have to qualify what I'm about to say by saying, "Humans seem to need X..." I feel like an alien sometimes trying to figure humans out, and I'm not sure if it's just a part of my personality, the ptsd, or what. One...

My landlord cashed my check for two months. It's the first time something like that has happened in about a decade, so I'm probably just projecting my stuff onto the situation.

After I gave my landlord the check for two months rent, I emailed a picture of it to him and asked him to confirm that he got it. I think that would serve as proof that I've been trying to pay? @Friday, that's what I thought too at first, which is why it's already the end of the month, and I...

I relate to this a lot @Annalyn78. The pandemic has also got me in overgear too. Part of my backstory is that my dad attempted suicide when I was 11 after he convinced me that his survival and happiness depended on me doing everything he asked of me (he was disabled and sadistic). I realized...

Thanks @somerandomguy. That's the kind of reality check I'm looking for. But they do have a reason. I'm paying below market, and I feel that they are setting me up to find a reason to evict me so that they can make a lot more on the apartment. The area I'm in now sky-rocketed.