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If you walk away, you are giving him the opportunity to see what life is like without you. If you are always there for him, he will never know. I was always told "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Something to bear in mind.

I am going to guess that as a supporter (I have never been diagnosed with PTSD), the sexual abuse I dealt with may not have been something that for whatever reason caused me full on PTSD, it just made me inhibited and depressed and messed with my self esteem. I don't recall ever isolating, or...

I strongly believe trauma is stored in the body. I was sexually abused (Not forcibly) by a 28 year old in a position of authority over me when I was 13. During the process of this I developed what I think were at the time an abnormal level of inhibitions. Just learned how to say NO really really...

Wow. Brave. Congratulations on overcoming...

Solara- Therapy may not work for him but honestly I didn't see you being very solution oriented in your response. Toughlove is one thing but thats a little extreme, don't you think? Animalliberator- It sounds to me like you need to trust SOMEONE. Maybe it's not a therapist. I have talked to...

Worried...:banghead:

As a female supporter dating someone with PTSD- people who don't want you because you are on disability are shallow. If you were boring, or you weren't trying to improve your life that would be different ;) People who don't want you because you have PTSD, well they are looking at the label and...

I've had a similar experience of losing friends over the years but there few that are still with me too. I guess for me there's a few questions that come to mind. With my own friendships as well as those of everyone here. There's no right answers there's just your answers, but maybe it will...

Berlinda- I am certian it is not because you are awful that you lack emotional support. It takes courage to trust, but it reaps huge rewards. You start small, trusting with little things and kind of work your way up. If you let people in you are giving them the power to hurt you, but also to...

I'm grateful to be your magical Badger. :hug:

Hmm Abstract, now that you put it that way, disorganised is kind of my style, but I'd rather it looked a little more deliberate, I guess. I'm in good physical condition, and I do agree about negative motivations being unhelpful, I don't go out that much actually, except to the grocery store, and...

I am an anarchist at heart I guess. I honestly do not care what is suitable. I am a stay at home mom so it's not like anyone is going to yell at me for dressing inappropriately for work. I do stick with things that are reasonably clean. I used to try to dress like everyone else to fit in but I...

Notallwounds... Something I see in the people I have met throughout my own life is that you have to love yourself before you can love others. Love is something you do. It's an act you engage in on a daily basis. It's a verb. Unfortunately you can profess to loving someone and do abusive things...

I agree with Ayesha, Bluerose, I think your comment was a little harsh and judgemental. Toxic behavior runs in families.

This is a great thread. I was wondering if this comes under the same issue or a different one? The reason I neglect self care is because I have 2 young children and I have a tendency to feel guilty. I look sort of like a floppy muppet all the time because my hair is ungroomed and hangs in front...

I went through this as a kid. My mother basically raised me as a boy. Heck, I thought I was a boy half the time! If I was at a playground full of kids I didn't know and they assumed I was a boy I would not correct them. So my gender identification was a little different. As a young teenager I...

I think PTSD can make people distrustful and distrustful people can cheat. So I would disagree that PTSD cannot be the cause of cheating although I am sure the relationship is indirect and far from statistically predictable. Sort of a defense reaction-like "She's going to do it to me so I'd...

Lizio, you mention that you have children, I do too. Mine are 3 and 7, and I'll Make Tea mentioned that she had a child too, Having a young child makes you more vulnerable in these situations because it is so very hard to leave them. The economic instability of being out on your own with young...

I think living together successfully is all about tolerance and mutual support. Everyone has quirks. Its about finding the person you can live with who has mutually compatable quirks. Abstract and I would not make good housemates. I am not germ paranoid and I drag stuff in from the garden to the...

I take it there are parts of this whole episode you have no memory of? Has anyone told you what happenned during that time? Because its hard to say anything helpful here without understanding why they threw you out. Presumably it is not because you were going to stay at your mothers? Do you know...

I am separated from my husband, but due to kids, and not being able to work full time because of the 3 year old, I'm stuck living in the same house. We have separate rooms. He is a hoarder, the garage and the attic are full to the top with his junk, but he still feels compelled to tell me how to...

Lets just say Ambien's been a problem for me recently too. It was at least partially responsible for a major mess in my relationship. I take it right before bed, and my significant other who is more of a night owl then I am texts me or IM's with me when I am on it. I never mind waking up in the...

Totally. The choking thing. Awful. Attempted murder, I would agree with Solara. You poor thing. You need to listen to what these people are saying. Your life is in danger. Add to that the fact that this guy has a jealousy problem and you seem to be buying into allowing him to dump you and then...

I can't imagine anyone with PTSD who would be able to truly love a religion where fear of going to hell is supposed to be the primary motivation for belief. Some Christian sects are like that. Beatenman, does this sound familiar? Because that is reinforcement of trauma. It's bullying plain and...

Bravo, Alise, don't cave on your decision to hold his feet to the fire. I've learned PTSD is not some kind of Get Out of Jail free card. In other words it's not freedom from the consequences of being a jerk. He has an obligation to treat you decently and explain himself, and let you know that he...